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ONCE AGAIN THIS YEAR HAS SHOCKED ME TO UNBELIEF I CAME IN THIS YEAR THINKING THIS IS THE YEAR OF NEW BEGINNINGS BUT ALONG WITH THAT NEW BEGINNINGS CAME SOME EARLY AND UNESPECTED ENDINGS FOR THE PAST 3 MONTHES MY FAMILY AND I HAVE SUFFERED LOST OF LOVE ONES THIS PAST FRIDAY WE LOST OUR MOM WHO HAD CAME THROUGH SURGERY ON MONDAY AND WAS TALKING TO US ALL ON THAT EVENING LIKE NORMAL. I WAS AT WORK WHEN THE NEWS CAME AND ONLY WISH I WAS THERE WITH HER. IT IS SO STRANGE HOW TWO MONTH PRIOR TO WE HAD A LONG TALK IN OUR WERIOD BUT SACARED  PLACE IN THE BATHROOM OF HER HOME SHE TOLD ME WHAT SHE WANTEDME TO DO IF ANYTHING HAPPEN TO HER AND ME LISTENING BUT SAYING MA YOURE NOT GOING ANYWHERE. YOU HAVE MANY MORE YEARS AHEAD OF YOU. THE DAY OF THE SURGERY I WAS JUST PRAYING THAT SHE MADE IT THOUGH AND RECOVER FAST .  WHEN I HEARD HER I LOVE YOU I WAS SATISFIED THINKING THAT I WILL SURPRISE HER ON THE WEEKEND AND SPEND AS MUST TIME AS I COULD WORKING WITH HER DURING HER REHABILATION PERIOD ONLY TO BE SURPRISED BY THE NEWS OF HER DEATH. I WAS NOT NEAR HER OR CLOSE BY TO SHE HER BEFORE THEY COVERED HER FACE IT HURT BUT I DONT WANT TO SOUND SELFISH JUST WISH I HAD ONE LAST HUG ONE LAST CHANCE TO HEAR HER SAY I LOVE YOU EQUILLA YOU ARE MY OLDEST BABY.

I DID NOT TELL ANYONE THAT I HAD WLS, SO PEOPLE ARE WONDERING WHAT I AM DOING. I HAVE BEEN THE TALK OF MY JOB SINCE I HAVE RETURNED. I HAVE HAD RANDOM DRUG TESTS AND I WAS ASKED IF I WAS ON CRACK. PEOPLE HAVE SOME NERVES I JUST DONT UNDERSTAND WHY THEY JUST CANT SAY YOU ARE LOOKING GOOD.

THANK GOD FOR  PEACE OF MIND. MY HEAVENLY FATHER HAS TRULY BLESSED ME AND HAVE DONE MORE THINGS TO PROVE THAT HE IS EVER PRESENT IN MY LIFE. HE LOVES ME UNCONDITIONALLY AND KEEPS ON BLESSING ME OVER AND OVER AGAIN. 
 I AM FOUR AND A HALF MONTHS IN THIS JOURNEY. THOUGH SOME DAYS I WONDER ABOUT MY WEIGHT LOST BEING SLOWER THAN OTHERS HERE. I REALIZE THAT I AM LOSING AND THAT IS ALL THAT MATTERS NOW. I FEEL SO MUCH BETTER THAN I DID LAST YEAR THIS TIME AND I AM SO GLAD TO BE A LIVING TESTIMONY. AS OF TODAY I AM 259 LBS. NINE POUNDS AWAY FROM MY MINI GOAL . THIS WEIGHT IS COMING OFF MY NEXT MINI GOAL IS TO GET TO LOSE 70POUNDS BY AUGUST 10TH.

I JUST HAVE TO VENT A LITTLE . BOTH OF MY NEPHEWS WERE SHOT,MY 28 YEAR OLD NEPHEW WAS SHOT AND KILLED EARLY SATURDAY MORNING. THE 30 YEAR OLD IS SEEKING REVENGE AND I AM TOTALY AT A LOSE FOR WORDS IT WAS SENSELESS AND I AM SO HURT.  I LITERLY RAISED THEM AND THEY LOST THEIR MOM TO CANCER 1 YEAR 11 MONTHS AGO. IT IS HARD FOR ME RIGHT NOW .

I HAVE HIT A MAJOR STALL OR SHOULD I SAY A SET BACK. I WENT BACK TO WORK ON 3-18-08 AS A CORRECTIONAL OFFICER/ MASTER COSMETOLOGIST. I NOTICED THAT I WAS SWELLING MORE THAN NORMAL WHICH I CONTRIBUTE TO HURTING MY ANKLE WHILE WALKING. I WENT TO A FOOT AND ANKLE SPECLIST AND HE PERSCRIBED NAPROXEN STATING THAT I HAD SOME INFLAMATION GOING ON IN MY ANKLE BUT NOTHING WAS BROKEN OR TORN. I TOOK ONE PILL AND THE NEXT MORNING MY FACE WAS SWOLLEN. I JUST ASSUMED THAT IT WAS CAUSED BY THE POLLEN & THE FACT THAT I DID NOT GET MY ALLERGY SHOTS FOR TWO WEEKS.  SO I TOOK TWO MORE OF THE NAPROXENS AT DIFFERANT TIMES. THE NEXT MORNING I WAS SWOLLEN SO BIG THAT I GOT ON THE SCALE TO SEE JUST HOW MUCH WATER WEIGHT I HAD ON ME. FOURTEEN POUNDS OMG I READ THE PAPERS THAT CAME WITH THE MEDICINE. IT HAD ASPIRIN IN IT I AM ALLERGIC  AND HAD A REACTION TO IT. NEEDLESS TO SAY WLS PATIENTS CANT TAKE ASPIRIN PRODUCTS.  I WENT BACK TO THE FOOT SPEC AND HE GAVE ME A NEW PERSCRIBTION.  I WENT TO MY PCP AND HE STATES HE IS LEARY OF GIVING ME A DIURECTIC FOR FEAR OF LOWERING MY BLOOD PRESSURE. ON A GOOD NOTE I AM NO LONGER ON PRESSURE MEDS AND MY A1C HAS DROPPED 2 POINTS. I HAVE NOT GOTTEN THIS EDEMA UNDER CONTROLLED AS OF THIS DAY. I ASKED MY PCP TO PERSCRIBE ME A DIURECTIC, I HAVE NOT HEARD FROM HIM YET. I AM TAKING IN MY VITAMINS AND MY PROTEIN IN BUT STILL HAVING A HARD TIME WITH THE WATER AND EXERCISING. I AM DETERMINE TO MAKE IT TO MY SHORT TERM GOAL OF BEING 250 BY MAY 10, 2008. I WAS 2 MONTHS OUT AS OF 3-31-08.

 I WILL  RETURN BACK TO WORK NEXT WEEK, AFTER BEING OUT TEN AND A HALF MONTHS BATTLING CANCER AND OBESITY. IT HAS BEEN A TRING TIME FOR ME, BUT I PASSED THE TEST. IT IS ALL ABOUT ATTITUDE. I WENT THROUGH THIS TIME BELIEVING GOD AND REFUSING TO SETTLE FOR WHAT MAN SAID.  NOW I HAVE TO TRANSITION BACK INTO THE WORKFORCE. PRIOR TO BEING DIAGNOSED I WORKED TWO FULL TIME JOBS. GOD HAS SHOWED ME THAT IT DONT TAKE ALL THAT. SO I WILL BE FURTHERING MY EDUCATION. 

I MADE A CHOICE THAT I KNEW  WAS RIGHT FOR ME. THAT CHIOCE WAS TO NOT TELL MY FAMILY ( MOTHER,SISTERS,& BROTHER), NOR PEOPLE THAT LIVE IN THIS TOWN(SUPPOSE TO BE FIRENDS) ABOUT MY HAVING WLS.  I TOLD MY DAUGHTER AND OH PEOPLE HERE  THAT IS ALL THE PEOPLE THAT NEEDED TO KNOW. I DONT MINE SHARING MY EXPERIENCE WITH PEOPLE HERE THAT ARE GOING THROUGH THE SAME THING THAT I AM GOING THROUGH. I HAVE A SISTER WHO HAS HAD WLS AND HAD A PAGE HERE ON OH BUT IN ORDER TO NOT HAVE TO SHARE WITH ME SHE MADE HER PAGE PRIVATE AND EVENTUALLY DELETED HER PAGE. NOW THAT SHOCKED ME BUT THAT IS HER CHOICE. NOW IT IS MY CHOICE TO ONLY BE OPEN TO THOSE THAT MATTER THE MOST TO ME.  MY THING IS THAT I HAVE BEEN THROUGH SO MUCH NEGATIVE FEED BACK FROM IMMEDIATE FAMILY AND FRIENDS THROUGHOUT THE YEARS THAT  I JUST WENT INTO MY OWN LITTLE WORLD . THE PEOPLE THAT AT THAT TIME MATTERED THE MOST TO ME ALWAYS HAVE RIDICULED ME. WHEN I WAS SMALLER THEY SAID I WAS FAT WHEN I LOST WEIGHT THEY SAID  I WAS TOO SMALL. NOW THAT I HAVE CHOSE NOT TO TELL THEM THEY WONDER WHY.  I AM DOING THIS FOR MYSELF AND IF I CANT DEPEND ON ME WHO CAN I DEPEND ON. WHEN I WAS BATTLING CANCER MY FAMILY CAME ONCE TO SEE ME IN THE HOSPITAL BECAUSE THEY THOUGHT I WAS GOING TO DIE. THEY WANTED TO KNOW WHO THE INSURANCE MONEY WAS GOING TO, BUT GOD BROUGHT ME THROUGH. THEN  DURING MY TREATMENTS, THIRD DEGREE BURNS FROM THE RADIATION AND MY BEING OUT OF WORK NOT ONE OF THEM OFFERED TO DRIVE FOR ME OR HELP ME WITH BILLS OR ANYTHING ELSE IT WAS LIKE I NEVER EXISTED. GOD PROVAILED THROUGH IT ALL. NOW THAT I AM A RECOVERED SURVIVIOR OF CANCER, AND HAVE MADE THIS STEP TO BATTLE OBESITY, I HAVE REALIZED WHAT AND WHO IS IMPORTANT TO ME. I HAVE DECIDED THAT IT IS NONE OF THEIR BUSINESS  WHAT I HAVE DECIDED TO DO FOR ME AND MY HEALTH.  FUNNY HOW PEOPLE CAN THINK THAT I AM CONCEITED OR EVEN SELFISH BUT WHEN I TOLD THEM THAT I WAS BATTLING CANCER OF THE BREAST AND COLON THEY WERE NOT THERE FOR ME. BEFORE THE DIAGNOSES, I WORKED TWO JOBS TO PAY SOME OF MY MOTHER AND MY BILLS AND WHEN I WAS TOLD I COUILD NOT WORK ONE JOB,AND COULD NOT PAY HER BILLS. I BECAME A PRODUCT OF RAPE CHILD AND USELESS ALL OVER AGAIN.  SO WHAT MAKE ME THINK THEY WILL BE WITH ME NOW THAT I AM BATTLING OBESITY. THE FRIENDS THAT KNEW THAT I HAVE STRUGGLED WITH MY WEIGHT FOR YEARS ALWAYS SAY BUT YOU HAVE A PRETTY FACE. LOSING WEIGHT FOR ME IS NOT ABOUT LOOKS.  SOME WILL EVEN START WORKING OUT WITH ME AND AS SOON AS IT START WORKING FOR ME THEY WILL STOP. THEIR MOTIVES WERE NOT GENUINE. MAYBE THEY THOUGHT I WOULD BE FINER WHO KNOWS.

I WATCH TODAY SHOW AND I OFTEN HEAR THEM SAY WHEN A PERSON LOSES WEIGHT "THEY DID IT THE GOOD OLD FASHION WAY WITH DIET AND EXERCISE." THOSE ARE THE KIND OF COMMENTS THAT REALLY ERK ME. ENOUGH IS ENOUGH. WELL PEOPLE THAT HAVE HAD SUCCESS WITH WLS AND LOSE WEIGHT DID IT THROUGH DIET AND EXERCISE ALSO WE JUST HAD SOME HELP.

ON TOP OF ALL OF THIS I SEEM TO ATTRACT THE SAME KIND OF USELESS MEN WHO DO NOT KNOW HOW TO TREAT A REAL WOMAN. I WAS TALKING WITH A GUY JUST BEFORE I FOUND OUT ABOUT THE BREAST CANCER HE WAS SWEET BUT I GUESS HE COULD NOT TAKE THE WHOLE PROCESS AND ONE DAY HE JUST WALKED OUT SAYING HE NEEDED TIME. THEN A MAN FROM MY PASS CAME BACK INTO MY LIFE. I KNOW REBOUND LOVE.  I THOUGHT OK MAYBE THIS ONE WILL WORK AND HE WAS SO HANDY AROUND THE HOUSE. THEN HE JUST STOPPED LEFT SOME WORK UNFINISHED AND TOLD ME HE WAS GETTING BACK WITH HIS EX EX WIFE. I AM LIKE WHEN DID THIS HAPPEN. ONE DAY WE  WERE AT THE MOVIES LAUGHING AND ENJOYING EACHOTHER AND THE NEXT THING I KNOW HE IS GETTING REMARRIED FOR THE THIRD TIME TO THE SAME WOMAN. STRANGE THING HE WAS WANTING ME TO BE INTIMATE WITH HIM WHEN  I REFUSED HE GOT UPSET. I WAS LIKE WHAT THE .  I CANT TAKE REJECTION WELL & YOU WILL NOT GET MY GOODY FOR THAT LAST TIME. NOW I AM WORKING ON ME NO TIME FOR SERIOUS RELATIONSHIPS, JUST NEED TIME TO DO ME.  WHEN I GET THIS TOGETHER I AM PRAYING THAT I CAN ATTRACT THE RIGHT MAN. ON THE OTHER NOTE  FOR MY FRIENDS THAT DONT KNOW I WAS WEAK BUT SAFE SO PLEASE PRAY WITH ME ON THIS ISSUE. WHEN YOU ARE USE TO HAVING SEXUAL RELATIONS IT IS HARD TO JUST GIVE IT UP, BUT I AM CELIBATE AGAIN. 
I NEED SOME PRAYER WARRIORS NOW AND SOME COUNSELING. I JUST WANT TO BE LOVED THE RIGHT WAY UNCONDITIONALLY. THANKS FOR ALLOWING ME TO VENT. WE ARE BLESSED  . 

I WENT TO ATLANTA TODAY FOR MY ONE MONTH CHECK UP. I TOLD THE NURSE THAT I AM NOT TOLORATING THE MEATS (TUNA  I WANT THE SOFT MEAT BUT IT IS LIKE MY STOMA DONT WANT NOT ONE BITE OF IT. I GET FRUSTRATED ABOUT NOT BEING ABLE TO TOLORATE IT.  SOUPS, CHEESE, CHICKEN SALAD AND EGG SALAD I CAN TAKE. SHE TOLD ME THAT MOST PEOPLE DONT TOLARATE MOST MEATS FOR 3-6 MONTHS AFTER SURGERY. I GUESS I HAVE TO VEG AND PROTEIN SHAKE IT OUT.WHAT ABOUT BEING A VEGETARIAN? IT IS LIKE I AM ONE ALREADY.
THAT CRUSHED CALCIUM CITRATE PLUS DMAKE ME FEEL REAL BAD. I NEED SOME GOOD SUGGESTIONS ON HOW TO TAKE THIS. THE NURSE TOLD ME THAT CALCIUM CITRATES HELPS BREAK DOWN THE FAT AND THAT IT IS ESSENTIAL TO TAKE IT DAILY IN ORDER TO HAVE THE BEST RESULTS. WELL I NEED SOME CHEWABLE ONES . I TAKE TWO CHEWABLE MULTIVITAMINS, 1 CHEWABLE VITAMIN C 500MG, CHROMIUM PICOLINATE 400MCG, B COMPLEX SUBLIGUAL LIQUID, PERSCRIBED IRON FERROUS SULFAT 325MG & B12 SHOT VIA MY PCP. I WALK 2-5 MILES 3 TIMES A WEEK IT DEPENDS ON HOW I FEEL.   I PLAN TO UP MY WALKING TO 5 MILES AT LEAST 5 TIMES A WEEK.  I  WORK OUT ON MY EASY SHAPER MOST OF MY WEIGHT IS IN THE LOWER PART OF MY BODY.  WHEN I AM HOME I TRY TO MOVE DOING SOMETHING EVERY HOUR  EVEN IF IT IS JUST DANCING. TODAY I WAS TOLD I CAN START MODERATE WEIGHT TRAINING, AEROBICS AND SIT UPS.

 I AM SO GRATEFUL FOR HAVING THE SURGERY. I DO NOT REGRET MY DECISION AT ALL. I JUST WANT TO AT LEAST BE ABLE TO HOLD DOWN TILAPIA,TURKEY AND CHICKEN BREAST WITH OUT HAVING TO RUN TO THE BATHROOM. I KNOW IT GETS GREATER LATER. I WILL HAVE TO ENJOY THIS NOW AND TAKE ADVANTAGE OF IT WHILE THE GETTING IS GOOD. SLAP ME FOR EVEN COMPLAINING ONE MINUTE BECAUSE GOD HAS TRULY BLESSED ME ON THIS JOURNEY TO EVEN GET THIS FAR. ON A GOOD NOTE I FOUND OUT THAT I WEIGH 279.5  29.5 POUNDS AWAY FROM MY MINI GOAL MAKING MY TOTAL WEIGHT LOST TO DATE 38.3  NOT BAD FOR 5 WEEKS . THANK YOU GOD.  I SEE MY PCP TOMORROW & SOON WILL BE GOING BACK TO WORK AFTER BEING OUT 10 MONTHS AND 2 WEEKS BATTLING CANCER AND NOW OBESITY WOW GOD IS SO AWESOME. HE BROUGHT ME THROUGH 8 SURGERIES AND THIRD DEGREE BURNS FROM CANCER TREATMENTS. I AM TRULY BLESSED TO BE HERE  & TYPING THIS BLOG. I KNOW HE HAS A PURPOSE AND A PLAN FOR MY LIFE.

Date	Weight	Pounds Lost	Total Pounds Lost	BMI
Date#1	W#1	PL#1	TPL#1	BMI#1
Date#2	W#2	PL#2	TPL#2	BMI#2
Date#3	W#3	PL#3	TPL#3	BMI#3
Date#4	W#4	PL#4	TPL#4	BMI#4
Date#5	W#5	PL#5	TPL#5	BMI#5
Date#6	W#6	PL#6	TPL#6	BMI#6
Date#7	W#7	PL#7	TPL#7	BMI#7
Date#8	W#8	PL#8	TPL#8	BMI#8
Date#9	W#9	PL#9	TPL#9	BMI#9
Date#10	W#10	PL#10	TPL#10	BMI#10
Date#11	W#11	PL#11	TPL#11	BMI#11
Date#12	W#12	PL#12	TPL#12	BMI#12
Date#13	W#13	PL#13	TPL#13	BMI#13

Life rules after gastric bypass.

1.   NO CARBONATION.  I have not had a soda a 1 year.  I am living without it just fine thanks.  If you choose to slug those diet cokes then have at it.  Whether you buy into the co2 gas and the damage it can do is mox nix to me.  But know that it does leach calcium from your bones and we have enough to contend with as it is. 

2.  NO FAST FOOD.  None.  No compromise.  I do not go into BK, KFC, Arbys, Sonic, Mister Donut  or any other so called fast food joint.  I just don't.  If I am caught out, I'll go to Subway and get a Turkey wrap in a pinch.  I do have Wendy's chili and refried beans, or there Grilled Chick Salad from TB in the beginning.  But I don't do that anymore.  I can eat way more now and don't want to chance what I might do in those places.  They were a main cause of my weight gain in the first place and I just won't get caught up in that rat race again.

3.  NO DRINKING WITH MEALS, BEFORE OR AFTER. That is a basic WLS rule.  And if you can't do it, don't throw away those size 24s.  In the long run it can lead to gain.  Drinking with meals washes food from your pouch and you get hungry again.  Soon.  And what do you do when you get hungry?  You eat of course.  And the calories add up.  Its not a problem the first couple of years, but as time goes on, your hunger returns with a vengeance.  We no longer have a pyloric valve in the stomach that opens to allow food to slowly pass into the intestine.  So if we are empty, and there is nothing high in the small intestine, food goes right on through.  And the soupier it is, the quicker it empties. 

4. PROTEIN EVERY DAY. I still count my protein grams every day.  Not so much now for muscle retention and healing, but for the density and low calories.  I am trying to maintain my loss.  I can eat protein and I am pretty sure I absorb quite well now, so I am unlikely to develop protein malnutrition. 

5.  VITAMINS AS A RELIGION.  I don't miss.  I take a multi-vitamin, calcium, extra C, and B complex + C every day.  I get a B12 shot every 4 to 6 weeks.  It is a life long commitment and if you don't do it, you will suffer in the long run.

You do what you feel you must.  And I hope that if you are new to this, and you have either had the surgery, or are thinking about it, that you make some life rules.  We all know deep down what caused our weight gain.  So think about it, and make your own rules.


THIS BLESSED ME HOPE IT HELPS SOMEONE ELSE AS WELL!!!