Negativity

Aug 22, 2011

 We all experience it from one time to another.  Being overweight we probably experienced it more than others.  Negativity from others, negativity from ourselves, negative thoughts, negative energy, negative PEOPLE!  I don't know if losing weight has made me less tolerant of these negative situations, thoughts, places, and PEOPLE but I find myself trying to avoid it at all costs.  I have a coworker that I was very close with.  She was so supportive of me during my approval process and even after surgery.  She has got her friends together to give me smaller clothes as they are all very small and I thought they was being supportive.  Well over the last 4 months or so her attitude has slowly changed.  She has gone from being supportive to just down right nasty.  Telling me I can't do this and I can't do that.  From going back to school, to being in a management position at the firm we work for, to losing more weight then I originally wanted to lose, to finding a good man, to moving to a new place...literally everything I say she tells me I can't do it.  What changed?  Well she was in a bad relationship and he dumped her.  Somehow that left her with this new found "Im better than you" attitude.  Not sure how that happened but it did.  I have listened to her shoot down every single thing I have wanted to do for months.  The thing that sticks out in my head the most, I wanted a strapless long tube dress.  The kind that all the girls wear to the beach.  She told me "nope you can't wear that you are too short and it will make you look fatter".  Well I bought a strapless tube dress and I must say I look pretty good in it LOL.  I don't think that it makes me look fatter and if I like it why does it matter?  Everyone has an opinion and I am fine with that.  But if your opinion is negative why would you say it to your friend and not try to put in it a positive manner?  Give advice, give guideance, but judging and being super negative probably isn't the way to go.  So now what was a "friendship" is now nothing because we are now not even talking to each other.  Funny how that happens.

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