I am totally a white girl but let me start out by saying it sounds to me there is just a bit of resentment because maybe her family does not handle hospital stays and surgeries as your family does.  I think its wonderful that your family supports you in that way and they are there when you need them.  My husband stayed with me too and he took off the second day to stay with me so we are white folks  that love and support each other but I believe when you love someone you need to let them know that you support them no matter what.   Let me just say I commend you because you did not blow your stack but I too can feel the sadness that she announced it at a time that was not appropriate. 

Really hope your spirits lift as time goes by...That first week is really hard..I continued to take pain meds into my 3rd week before I could get comfy...Please go over to the main board and post too. There are many more responces there and maybe someone that might be the right inspiration for you personally.  I am 1 month out and feeling much better...but still have those I want to be able to eat this..but you know what..there is not a diet I ever tried that I did not say the same thing..and those diets got me no where..I think of how miserable I was and how I felt everytime I tried on new clothes and they all looked, terrible.. You will feel better soon..Please hang in there..  We are all right there with you.

6 months per my surgeon.  LOL.  I just drink decaf tea now - it hits the spot!

Oooh, that sounds yummy!!  

YUM!! thanks for the tip!