Thanks for the input!  It's just so hard to actually say it to her.  I've wanted to so many times!  Hell, I went thru 18 weeks of required classes to even be eligible for surgery at Altru and she came with me and I had her fooled that it was weight loss classes......it "kinda" was, right??!! ha ha!  The generation differences are so vast and my mother is more elderly than other ppl my age as she had me so late in life....after 8 others!  They grew up giving so unselfishly, that I KNOW she won't understand wanting to do this for ME!  I find some ppl mix us doing this with their feelings, and really, not to sound snotty,  they are irrelevant in my decision.  This is about me, my health and my hubby and kids!!  Thanks guys!

I am glad to see this posted!  I am only 12 days away, and still have yet to tell my elderly mother.  She's struggled with her weight her whole life and out of 9 kids, only 2 of us struggle with our weight.  I love her to death, but sometimes I think she is, in a weird way, happy I am like her...does that even make sense?  We grew up with an alcoholic father, and she used sweets, etc. to compensate.  I have a very happy, healthy marriage and family life now and KNOW this is best for me.  But she is a very Negative Nancy so I dread telling her at all!!  I think I will wait until the 10th, the night before, so I don't have to listen to it the next 11 days!!  I have very supportive best friends.  Some acquaitences I know I will lose, but I am prepared for that!  Thanks for posting and for letting me vent!!

hey Kelly,
   good to see ya, to bad it ran so late, no time to visit.. not sure what to think of the speaker,pretty sure tho, Im glad that he was not my Dr.not too good bedside manner.. I disagree with his assumption that all people overweight and wanting surgery are food addicts and turn to other addictions. Lets see, at my age I think I will take sex addiction...oh wait, I suppose I could do drinking, just a capful will do...but in all reality, I dont and never had an addiction, unless biting my nails counts... and none of my family does either. I kinda felt sorry for all the people there that are waiting for surgery, I dont think I heard him say anything postive about the steps that are taking to improve their life, too bad... there were alot of people there with lots of anxiety about surgery.  Peggy
 

Kathi,
exactly!!!
I was always one to dress nice,put make- up on, not be seen in public looking crappy- unless I was sick. When people make those comments I am like WTH! did I look that bad? lol. I chalk it up to the people who walk around with blinders on but know it all.

I loved the idea at the meeting of the 100 party, I might just have to attempt that! I too keep to my healthy way of life. Do I blunder off track a time or two? Yes, I am human. Only difference is now it might be 1 peanut butter cup (sugar free) vs  a handful of the regulars ones,prior to surgery. It is all how you handle it.
Have a wonderful Sunday.
Kelly/tink

This topic is interesting because, I too, had people say, oh you were never that heavy, you didn't need it! I always say, then where was that 113 lbs that I lost? I couldn't hide it in my shoe.

I think its just that its awkward for someone else and they really don't know what to say, do they think they are complimenting you if they say you look better (or does that sound like you look worse before?) or do they say you didn't need it (you look worse now?) I just stick to the healthy routine and they say, oh, that makes sense. Everyone has an opinion tho about this, as I must not have worked out enough, ate too much, or ate cake 24/7.