On the bench, doing well in some regards and not so well in others...long rant

You know, most times I try to look at both sides of a story and figure out why people say or do the things they do. ..and I think...Maybe he's scared and doesn't know how to handle his emotions.

One thing I do know is that THERE IS NO F-N EXCUSE FOR HIS BEHAVIOUR. THAT IS ABUSIVE.

I'm thinking of how scared we are having surgery, what we have to go through, the pain we are in...and that BULL**** OMG. 

I hope you are stong enough not to put up with that.

F-N?

F-NG .

I type it effin.

...
maybe that's why Karen was giggling. I might be the only one who writes F-N!

I am glad to hear that your actual surgery went well. 

I am really sorry for all the **** it is costing you though. 

Glad your surgery went well and here's hoping recovery goes well.

Sorry to read about the BS your husband is putting you through. I find it interesting that we're the type of people who spend a lifetime taking care of others...when we need people the most, it seems like some of us get abandoned.

I hope things work out better. It sounds like he's scared and doesnt really know how to manage those feelings. But that's just a guess since I dont know him...

Anyway...best of luck

My thoughts and prayers are with you. Hang strong!

Wow, its all about HIM, isn't it?  Hopefully this is an isolated situation that he'll come down out of, once he knows that you are ok (thinking his reaction might be out of fear for you), otherwise, get the support that you need and get the heck outta Dodge!

Hugz and fast healing!

 I think you should pack up the kids and take them and you to your parents house.  He needs a time out to think about what a jerk he is being.  I would also tell him in no uncertain terms that this will become permanent if he doesn't get it together and start to respect you and treat you better.  You really, really, really don't need to put up with this kind of crap!  This is part of the journey, start sticking up for yourself!