Deciding Goal Weights

PREOP ALERT!!

I plan to go down to a NORMAL BMI.... And I PLAN to go even lower... about 10-15 lbs lower then i actually want to end us to account for some space to bounce back...

lets see if that plan actually works for me... LOL..

Juls

thanks for posting this question. I know I have been struggling with this as well. I have a really skinny upper body but retain the hips and stomach fat I have always had, just less of it. So I am at 160. I think at my height closer to 150 would be better. It is hard when you know where it should go off but you don't lose it there.

I refuse to set a scale goal.

The scale and I have never been friends... I know what I look like with a size 12 waist, and a size 6 waist... etc. I picked a size range and will probably stick to that. 10-14. I'm tall, I'm busty (and was when I was thin), and I need to not be too thin as I get sick frequently when I am (also something I know very well). It's about being healthy.

I think we all have to do what it "right" for our selves... I just want to remain healthy looking through the process. A bit of vanity but a reality for me.

I think you looked absolutely adorable and very healthy and happy when I met you... But only you can answer these questions.

I also find that photographs allow me to see what IS instead of what my head is telling me.

My plan is to get to "their" goal of 170lbs and then take it pound by pound from there.  I've never been that low in my adult life so I have no idea.  If I still have more to lose, then I will keep going.  I'll stop when I LOVE what I see and how I feel! 

"They" never gave me a goal, but mine is 150. If I can get there I will be one happy Camper.

I mentally set a goal for myself of 145 at 5'6" but my body had other ideas.  I just stopped losing regardless of how strict I was on my diet so I am maintaining about 10 pounds higher than I had hoped.  At my 1 year the nurses said I had about 20 pounds of skin which would put me below my goal so maybe that is why my body stopped losing.  I didn't think my excess skin would weigh that much but even if it is 10 - 15 pounds I would be at a good weight and normal BMI.  I found too that as I stopped losing my sizes still went down (redistribution maybe) and my face doesn't appear so gaunt so less don't lose anymore comments. Either that or I am getting used to seeing my skinnier face.

I do intend to have plastics this year so I will see where I am then and reassess. My head is still adjusting and my sizes will be quite small once the extra skin is gone.  I am wearing size 8 bottoms and size medium top now. There is an element of fear for me in maintenance and I certainly don't have it figured it out yet but generally I am happy with where I am. 

I had to readjust what success was for me and I am still a work in process. I find I look at myself naked a bit more in the mirror to try to own my body and the excess skin and to see what I have accomplished.  

You will know when you have reached your body's happy point.

I'd love to be 140. That's where I was in high school, so I know what that looks like on me. However, if I stop at 150 or even 160 I'm ok with that too.

I think it's about where you're comfortable, and you don't really have to choose a number now. Just see how you feel. And when you feel your best, just stay there.

Just as a different opinion here. I'm only about 4 months out from RNY.

My healthy range is 165 at the top end for my height - but I am not a small person. I have size 13 feet and I'm 5'8. I think I might look a little ridiculous at 165. My goal right now is 180/190 - and I plan to re-asses and see how I feel when I get there. I feel like I will be happy at that weight.

But then again - it's true. Our bodies will tell us what's going on and everyone is so different. Just wanted to put a different view in there.