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Topic: Anyone heard from Ramon??
I'm missing his Grateful Posts.. altho I didn't respond to them.. hardly.
I do LOVE and MISS them.
Hope you are well Ramon
I do LOVE and MISS them.
Hope you are well Ramon
It is good to have an end to journey towards; but it is the journey that matters in the end. ~Ursula K. LeGuin
Topic: RE: ~SPIRITUAL~ A DAY AT A TIME
I'm doing good Marie.. so glad that you were able to bring all that was once dark out into the open. It makes it much more easier to deal with the truth when we can see it.. huh? 
try not to be depressed.. you are loved greatly, altho perhaps the PCP can shine some more light on that for you.
hugsss
It is good to have an end to journey towards; but it is the journey that matters in the end. ~Ursula K. LeGuin
Topic: ~SPIRITUAL~ A DAY AT A TIME
02-02 REFLECTION FOR THE DAY
Looking bak, I realize just how much of my life has been spent in dwelling upon the faults of others. It provided much self-satisfaction, to be sure, but I see now just how subtle and actually perverse the process became. After all was said and done, the net effect of dwelling on the so-called faults of others was self-granted permission to remain comfortably unaware of my OWN defects. DO I STILL POINT MY FINGER AT OTHERS AND THUS SELF-DECEPTIVELY OVERLOOK MY OWN SHORTCOMINGS?
TODAY I PRAY
May I see that my preoccupation with the faults of others is really a smokescreen to keep me from taking a hard look at my own, as well as a way to bolster my own failing ego. May I check out the "why's" of my blaming.
TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
Blame-saying
Is game-playing.
http://www.aa.org/?Media=PlayFlash
http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/
Looking bak, I realize just how much of my life has been spent in dwelling upon the faults of others. It provided much self-satisfaction, to be sure, but I see now just how subtle and actually perverse the process became. After all was said and done, the net effect of dwelling on the so-called faults of others was self-granted permission to remain comfortably unaware of my OWN defects. DO I STILL POINT MY FINGER AT OTHERS AND THUS SELF-DECEPTIVELY OVERLOOK MY OWN SHORTCOMINGS?
TODAY I PRAY
May I see that my preoccupation with the faults of others is really a smokescreen to keep me from taking a hard look at my own, as well as a way to bolster my own failing ego. May I check out the "why's" of my blaming.
TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
Blame-saying
Is game-playing.
http://www.aa.org/?Media=PlayFlash
http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/
It is good to have an end to journey towards; but it is the journey that matters in the end. ~Ursula K. LeGuin
Topic: RE: ~SPIRITUAL~ A DAY AT A TIME
Man it's amazing how thing**** home like this. I was just going over this step with my husband yesterday. I was telling him I knew my former "friend" was an addiction for me, and asked his forgiveness for my horrible moods while I was in that relationship. I know that "..if a relationship has to be secret, you shouldn't be IN it..." and parts of this one were. Now that's out and I feel better. Still depressed, but I see my PCP today and I'll see what he can do to help me out of that.
Thanks for posting this sweetie! :) Hope you're doing as fabulous as you look!! :)
Hugs,
Marie
Thanks for posting this sweetie! :) Hope you're doing as fabulous as you look!! :)
Hugs,
Marie
Topic: ~SPIRITUAL~ A DAY AT A TIME
02/01 REFLECTION FOR THE DAY
The longer I'm in The Program, the more clearly I see why it's important for me to understand WHY I do what I do, and say what I say. In the process, I'm coming to realize what kind of person I really am. I see now, for example, that it's far easier to be honest with other people than with myself. I'm learning, also, that we're all hampered by our need to justify our actions and words. HAVE I TAKEN AN INVENTORY OF MYSELF AS SUGGESTED IN THE TWELVE STEPS? HAVE I ADMITTED MY FAULTS TO MYSELF, TO GOD, AND TO ANOTHER HUMAN BEING?
TODAY I PRAY
May I not be stalled in my recovery process by the enormity of The Program's Fourth Stp, taking a moral inventory of myself, or by admitting these shortcomings to myself, to God and to another human being. May I know that honesty to myself about myself is all-important.
TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
I cannot mend if I bend the truth.
The longer I'm in The Program, the more clearly I see why it's important for me to understand WHY I do what I do, and say what I say. In the process, I'm coming to realize what kind of person I really am. I see now, for example, that it's far easier to be honest with other people than with myself. I'm learning, also, that we're all hampered by our need to justify our actions and words. HAVE I TAKEN AN INVENTORY OF MYSELF AS SUGGESTED IN THE TWELVE STEPS? HAVE I ADMITTED MY FAULTS TO MYSELF, TO GOD, AND TO ANOTHER HUMAN BEING?
TODAY I PRAY
May I not be stalled in my recovery process by the enormity of The Program's Fourth Stp, taking a moral inventory of myself, or by admitting these shortcomings to myself, to God and to another human being. May I know that honesty to myself about myself is all-important.
TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
I cannot mend if I bend the truth.
It is good to have an end to journey towards; but it is the journey that matters in the end. ~Ursula K. LeGuin
Topic: ~SPIRITUAL~ A DAY AT A TIME
01-31 REFLECTION FOR THE DAY
One of the most constructive things I can do is to learn to listen to myself and get in touch with my true feelings. For years, I tuned myself out, going along, instead, with what others felt and said. Even today, it sometimes seem that they have it all together, while I'm still stumbling about. Thankfully, I'm beginning to understand that people-pleasing takes many forms. Slowly but steadily, I've also begun to realize that it's possible for me to change my old patterns. WILL I ENCOURAGE MYSELF TO TUNE IN TO THE REAL ME? WILL I LISTEN CAREFULLY TO MY OWN INNER VOICE WITH THE EXPECTATION THAT I'LL HEAR SOME WONDERFUL THINGS?
TODAY I PRAY
I pray that I may respect myself enough to listen to my real feelings, those emotions which for so long I refused to hear or name or own, which festered in me like a poison. May I know that I need to stop often, look at my feelings, listen to the inner me.
TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
I will own my feelings.
These Inspirational readings can be used in all aspects of our lives and addictions. Not just for those addicted to alcohol, but those who have addictions to food.. shopping... gambling.. and sex. Rather it existed before WLS or if it is a transfer addiction. I look at people and I see many who are struggling with such addictions. Not that it's my place to point and try to cure because for me to do so is pointless. It's TOTALLY up to the said individual to realize that they have the illness. Once they do.. and once they realize that they don't want to live that life anymore.. THAT is when they will seek ways to make those changes.
I use to party hard on the Singles Board.. I became known to drink and dial with other members. Some was during blackouts.. and I've not a clue what was said. It was fun times!! We had a blast.. or I did anyways. I remember one lady asking me if I thought I had a drinking problem. I kinda did.. but took offense and posted back.. HELL NO.. It's all in fun. But.. after time I began to suffer consequences from my drinking in real life. My eyes one day saw a person who was wasted and I took a hard look and realized... I actually said to myself. "..damnnn.. that's what I look like when I'm drunk.." and I realized it's not pretty. Actually it was damn ugly. Soo I started to make the changes...
Sooo.. take a good look within. Listen to the inner me*you*. If you like what it's telling you now, Wonderful. If your not so happy.. you can make changes.. A Day At A Time.
One of the most constructive things I can do is to learn to listen to myself and get in touch with my true feelings. For years, I tuned myself out, going along, instead, with what others felt and said. Even today, it sometimes seem that they have it all together, while I'm still stumbling about. Thankfully, I'm beginning to understand that people-pleasing takes many forms. Slowly but steadily, I've also begun to realize that it's possible for me to change my old patterns. WILL I ENCOURAGE MYSELF TO TUNE IN TO THE REAL ME? WILL I LISTEN CAREFULLY TO MY OWN INNER VOICE WITH THE EXPECTATION THAT I'LL HEAR SOME WONDERFUL THINGS?
TODAY I PRAY
I pray that I may respect myself enough to listen to my real feelings, those emotions which for so long I refused to hear or name or own, which festered in me like a poison. May I know that I need to stop often, look at my feelings, listen to the inner me.
TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
I will own my feelings.
These Inspirational readings can be used in all aspects of our lives and addictions. Not just for those addicted to alcohol, but those who have addictions to food.. shopping... gambling.. and sex. Rather it existed before WLS or if it is a transfer addiction. I look at people and I see many who are struggling with such addictions. Not that it's my place to point and try to cure because for me to do so is pointless. It's TOTALLY up to the said individual to realize that they have the illness. Once they do.. and once they realize that they don't want to live that life anymore.. THAT is when they will seek ways to make those changes.
I use to party hard on the Singles Board.. I became known to drink and dial with other members. Some was during blackouts.. and I've not a clue what was said. It was fun times!! We had a blast.. or I did anyways. I remember one lady asking me if I thought I had a drinking problem. I kinda did.. but took offense and posted back.. HELL NO.. It's all in fun. But.. after time I began to suffer consequences from my drinking in real life. My eyes one day saw a person who was wasted and I took a hard look and realized... I actually said to myself. "..damnnn.. that's what I look like when I'm drunk.." and I realized it's not pretty. Actually it was damn ugly. Soo I started to make the changes...
Sooo.. take a good look within. Listen to the inner me*you*. If you like what it's telling you now, Wonderful. If your not so happy.. you can make changes.. A Day At A Time.
It is good to have an end to journey towards; but it is the journey that matters in the end. ~Ursula K. LeGuin
Topic: RE: Social Anxiety and WLS
It can't cure your ills - the only reason I am doing so well is because of all the work I did on myself BEFORE the surgery. I could never have been ready for the surgery if I hadn't done that work, and if weight loss has changed my body image, it's because I laid that groundwork first.
Does that make sense?
Does that make sense?
Topic: RE: Social Anxiety and WLS
Hello,
I have been reading your emails too each other and feel I have many of the same feelings. I haven't had my surgery yet but I am hope the self-esteem will get better when I am feeling better about my self. Problem I see is that I always had a self-esteem problem and the weight problem for only the last 15 or so years. I hope I am not counting on this surgery to cure all my ills, if you know what I mean. What are your thoughts on this?
jACKIE
I have been reading your emails too each other and feel I have many of the same feelings. I haven't had my surgery yet but I am hope the self-esteem will get better when I am feeling better about my self. Problem I see is that I always had a self-esteem problem and the weight problem for only the last 15 or so years. I hope I am not counting on this surgery to cure all my ills, if you know what I mean. What are your thoughts on this?
jACKIE
Topic: Interesting Article
Explains alot how me and my brother from the same parents ended up so different in the alcohol arena....
http://www.cnn.com/2009/HEALTH/01/29/alcohol.dependence/inde x.html
Topic: RE: Update on me
Its great to see you back. I mostly lur****asionally post. I am proud of you for your 18 days. Keep it going. After a lengthy illness over the holidays and most of this month, I am happy to say that I am finally well enough to go back to work. I celebrated 7 months on Jan 18th. Its been a long road.
Kathy
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