My youngest son is 19 months. Me and my husband are trying to have another baby. I have gained weight back with my last child and have not been able to take it off. I think I almost feel like whats the point since I will just gain it back with the next baby. The thing is I want a healthy pregnancy when I do get pregnant. We have been trying for two months now and are hoping it will happen soon. My question is how do I loose weight while im trying and when I am pregnant. I want a healthy pregnancy and dont want to get even bigger with this pregnancy.

I guess no matter what we do SOMEONE is gonna fine SOME fault, right? But you're right, it's none of their business. I actually upped my calories back up to 1000 yesterday and actually lost another pound and a half or so, so I'm gonna try to keep it around 1000 instead of 800 and see how that works. Thanks so much for everyone's input!! :-)

 2 things. WLS rearanges the bodys way of digesting. think about the RNY 90% of the intestine is gone! so it is different. 
1- WLS patients also go through stalls, but they also have manditory therapy in most cases, so they have a foot up. As th pp posted also their body wont let them stop the low cal... and sadly people also have strong opinions on WLS! they also hear they are bad dieters. 

I totally know what you mean! The reason I'm even on this message board is because I was planning on having wls. I had made the decision. I had my wls scheduled, vacation time requested and my flight booked. I was planning to have surgery in TJ Mexico. Then it just dawned on me that regardless of surgery I was going to have to change my bad eating habits, or I would gain back all the lost weight. I know people who have had wls, lost a bunch of weight then gain most or all of it back because they never changed what they ate, only how much they ate. Also, since I was going to have to start on a liquid diet, both pre- and post-op I decided to just go on a liquid diet w/ out the wls. So I cancelled my appointment and started a liquid diet. I did that for a couple months and did really well. I'm still doing mostly liquid and still losing, but I didn't tell most people about the liquid only phase because I didn't want to be chastised about my "unhealthy" diet. It's nobody's business but mine right? Screw everyone else.

Calories in/calories out is right to a certain extent, but you also need to be eating WELL or there's no way you're going to get the weight off and keep it off. Also, cutting that drastically can do unpleasant things to your metabolic rate - especially if you aren't able to exercise at all.

I do understand and don't mean to sound snotty if I do. I started at 303# and am now sitting at 254#. It took me over 1.5 YEARS to lose that 49#, so no quick fixes for me, but it IS possible to lose at least some of your excess weight.

Better than just starving yourself is to journal your normal (non-dieting) eating for a couple of weeks, then sit down with a dietitian if you possibly can. I was lucky enough to be able to take a bunch of modules through our local Health Authority on making healthy changes in eating habits, like eating breakfast within an hour of getting up, never skipping meals or planned snacks, not drinking anything with calories other than low fat milk. We also learned how to make good choices at restaurants and in social situations. It's HARD to totally change your eating habits, but it really is worth it.

If you have an iphone or itouch there's GREAT App called LoseIt! that has helped me a lot along the way. Having my dietitian help me by breaking down my calorie limit into meals and snacks and help me figure out strategies for in restaurants and while traveling was a HUGE help. It also helped that she looked at my food journal monthly for a few months. It helps to always be asking yourself,"Do I want this enough to deal with Carlene when she reads it in my journal? Umm.. no"

There are other online food journals that people use, like Spark, FitDay and the online version of LoseIt!. Do some poking around and try one. Remember that no matter what your calorie level you need enough protein, fibre, water, vitamins and minerals to keep healthy or you're going to get yourself into trouble - and feel like crap on a cracker.

As to what I eat. Well, I average about 12-1400 calories a day, with at least 75-80 grams of protein and 20-30 of fibre. (protein and fibre keep me from being miserably hungry all day long) I eat 5 times a day - breakfast, lunch, snack, supper and snack.

At the moment I'm keeping things super simple.(I have a very stressful life at the moment and need to not have to think about food) For breakfast I'm having high protein Boost (heated, with a cup of hot coffee or tea mixed in), lunch is either the same or a Greek yogurt cup and fresh fruit or a frozen entree (under 300 calories with a minimum of 15 grams of protein) or (if out) a pita or salad with chicken with a limit of 300 calories, snack is a copy of breakfast or a protein bar with 2 glasses of water or crystal light, supper is a large mixed salad with grilled chicken or fish or a big bowl of homemade soup and a flax bun, snack is fresh fruit or cut up raw veg - sometimes with some hummus to dip in.

I don't get all frantic about measuring my fruit or vag, since I sure didn't get this fat on an excess of carrot slices or blueberries.

You say you can't exercise. What CAN you do? There must be something, however small. When I started this journey I used a cane and had a handicapped tag on my car. I'm still too heavy to do much regular exercise, but I go to an aquasize class 3 days most weeks and take my dogs for short walks on the other days. Once I'm in the water I figure I weigh about the same as everyone else, and have gone from being the slowest and clumsiest one in the class to fitting in nicely. No more cane or car tag, and I can pretty much do anything I need to. Water exercise is amazing - and fun!

Back to you. Tell us more about your cir****tances and what changes you're willing to make long term. (diets that you go on and off of do NOT work - you have to make permanent changes to your eating habits and activity levels)