Eating Anger, Hurt and Fear
I am going through a difficult family situation that has left me angry, deeply hurt and afraid that I will see my family (siblings) relationships destroyed. It is all related to the recent passing of my parents and the misappropriation of funds and things by one of my siblings.
I find myself wanting to eat desperately. So far I've eaten slightly greater quantities than I normally do, and yesterday took a bite of a hamburger sandwich that my husband was eating and took three fries. I'm afraid that I'm going to get completely out of control with my eating. So far, nothing has made me sick and I'm afraid I won't even have that as a deterrent. I've scheduled an appointment with a therapist and have my first appointment next week. I'm hoping that will help me cope. In the meantime, how do I keep from eating my pain. I am crying even as I write this and I'm at a loss as to what to do with all these feelings now that I can't soothe them with food. Please help!
Joyce
Life is just a stage I'm going through...
HW:253 SW: 230 CW: 170 GW: 140
Just realize that eatting does not change the situation. Maybe exercise would help you work out your anger if you are able.
Winnie
Try to keep yourself busy with things that you cannot do while eating. For some popele that means keeping their hands busy and for others it means keeping your mind busy. For some it takes BOTH!
It you MUST eat before yiou can get a handle on things (and there is no shame in that... you just don;t have any new coping skills yet), try to force yourself to eat only protein items... slices of cheese (or LF string cheese, especially) or deli meats are good things to snack on, as are the small containers of yogurt.
Mostly, try to take care of yourself emotionally... do something calming and nurturing for yourself (a bubble bath maybe? some hot tea? curl up with a good book? go out with a friend? take a walk if the weather is nice?). ANYTHING you can do to soothe yourself emotionally will help stem the emotional need to eat.
Hang in there.
Lora
14 years out; 190 pounds lost, 165 pound loss maintained
You don't drown by falling in the water. You drown by staying there.
I have seen you respond to many people on here and you give such good advice. I just looked at who your doctor was and saw that your doctor is in with Dr. Schumacher. I just went there today and got my surgery dat as May 17th. It is good to know that you are on here to give good information. I am sure I will need it from time to time. Wish me luck.
Cheryl
Joyce
Life is just a stage I'm going through...
HW:253 SW: 230 CW: 170 GW: 140
1) I ate something that deviated from my plan so I feel full/sick/bloated/disgusted with myself, etc
and more importantly
2) The issue/problem I was trying to eat away is still there. I just have to deal with it while feeling even crappier (see #1).
This stuff is hard sometimes. Good luck to you. Learning these types of things is a process and doesn't happen overnite, especially when you're stressed so go easy on yourself. (((hugs)))
And good for you for realizing you need to tackle this right up front so it won't turn into a bigger monster later.
I'm so sorry you're going through this! Reminds me of when my Nana died last year and the hell that my estranged father & aunt put my dear aunt through over petty stuff. It really singed us that they were so hurtful and materialistic when the thing that really mattered was the loss of their mother. People express grief in the oddest ways sometimes and denial is a deep river.....
I'm glad you're getting someone to walk with you in this. I hope they help and know that you have this place and your "friends" to cry to whenever you need.
Sending you positive thoughts & prayers.
- Nicole
First ultra: Stone Mill 50 miler 11/15/14 13:44:38, First Full Marathon: Marine Corps 10/27/13 4:57:11, Half Marathon PR 2:04:43 at Shamrock VA Beach Half-Marathon, 12/2/12 First Half-Marathon 2:32:47, 5K PR Run Under the Lights 5K 27:23 on 11/23/13, 10K PR 52:53 Pike's Peek 10K 4/21/13, (1st timed run) Accumen 8K 51:09 10/14/12.
