2.5 Weeks Post Op and No Control- Roux en Y

 I can definitely sense the stress from your posts.  Luckily, you have a husband to help you out.  Why must you cook for everyone all the time?  Can he take some of the pressure off you by watching the kids a bit more in the evening or cooking more so that you can devote a little more time for your own success?  At 2.5 weeks out, you are not eating much.  Making three meals the night before is not going to take long.  I do it nightly for breakfast and lunch and it takes, at most, 20 minutes. 

You can be successful; you just need to find a way to make your health a priority, and if that means saying no, letting non-essentials slide, or delegate your workload, then so be it. 

 Tomorrow I will be able to start "soft foods" any recipes or suggestions that the whole family can enjoy?

chilli? 

(Also, are you using enough protein drinks to help with your self-control?)  I have two a day and that helps me.  Make sure (if you aren't already) to eat protein dense foods first.

 Chili may not be a good idea due to the acid content in the tomato products. I was told no tomato products until at least 4 months post op.

Egg salad, tuna salad (no celery), not sure what else. some soups, but really soup isn't a good idea because it's a big slider food. every now and then its ok. 

I am 3 weeks post op, and I feel like I eat pretty normal I guess.  I was put to soft foods 6 days after surgery.  Now I am eating some seafood, tuna, chicken, pork chops, lunch meat, eggs, sour cream, cheeses, I mean I hardly eat more than 6-7 bites of anything but I just chew and chew and chew.  I never did the puree stage, I was told as long as you chew your fine.  I think there is always something that I can find to eat. 

I'm reminded of the movie "Moonstruck" when Cher slaps Nicholas Cage and yells, "Snap out of it!!" Seriously, though, you need to follow the rules or you could seriously hurt yourself. You did this to get healthy so you can live a long happy life. Keep that in mind when you feel like you cannot control your actions. I know you can do this!!

I've lost 200 pounds and have kept it off for 2 years. I had to learn healthy eating habits and change my old ways of thinking. You can, too!!

Laura

I'm not going to add to the advice but I will give you a warning. I took care of a woman who binged so much her new pouch blew (literally ripped) open into her abdomen. She almost died from a combination of bleeding followed by infection and multiple surgeries. She spent more than 3 months in the hospital. So, this is your LIFE not your weight we're talking about. Find an overeaters anonymous meeting and go tomorrow. Also, call your doctor and make sure they know you're in trouble. Better to have them be aware in case something goes wrong. I struggle all the time not to eat too much and have to work to follow my plan--So do you. Put the excuses down along with the food. There's no magic wand or surgery or anything...it's just one day at a time and you CAN make it. You just have to choose life first, food second. Good luck.

do you belong to a church? many churches will have a group of members that donate their time and love making casseroles and such for people that have had surgery to help them get through the first few weeks. Or perhaps now is a great time for you to reach out to family and friends and let them know you are in need of help. Perhaps plan for a day that a couple of friends could come and help you prepare meals and freeze them in serving size containers. Then all you or your husband would have to do is take them out and heat. This will leave you more time to devote to yourself and YOUR needs each day during the week.

It is time to put yourself first.
Before anything else..you need to get this under control. Really...the first thing.