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I'm sorry but this doesn't sound healthy at all, you need to get out of there and move on hun, you should not be going through this...good luck!

 I have to agree.

A boy makes you jelous of other women, a man makes other women jelous of you.  

Grown-ups shouldn't feel the need to have to any of that. It's not a relationship, it's babysitting. Seriously.

It's good that you talked about it, but in reality that's not how a relationship works. I trust my husband and he trusts me. We never have to go they each others phones to see what the other is up to. We talk openly about everything. There's no need to get print outs of old test messages or whatever. You should be able to trust the man (or woman) you love. This way of living that you're doing is not healthy.

Sweetheart, there is nothing "good" about this relationship.  The fact that you've evidently encountered these issues, are having problems with these issues, and are trying to deal with these issues is a clear reflection that this relationship is unhealthy.

Before you go forward with marriage, I would so strongly encourage you to seek some professional counseling because if you cannot see what the problem is here, than you are the problem.

I know this sounds tough, but what I hope for you is that you will become emotionally sound enough with counseling to one day recognize that what you have here is a train wreck and not a healthy relationship... 

 

I was trying to figure out how to word what I was thinking without writing a  book, but you managed to do it for me!  This has disaster written all over it.

Lora

I just recently removed myself from a relationship where he was caught in numerous lies and stealing... I ditto what the others have said. Its NOT healthy. It was a hard break up, cause I had strong feelings (that were disapating each time something new was found) and he said he loved me... we tried. It didnt work. It was more like "I" tried while he kept lying and stealing from me...

So we parted... harsh words and hurt feelings... 

But then I met the most wonderful man... he DOES love me. He thinks I am amazing and beautiful and smart and every other positive adjective he can think of... 

I definitely feel the same toward him. Drop the douche... there's another man waiting for you to fall into his arms... who wants you to be happy... who wants to treat you ike the wonderful woman you are.

Dont't trust this other jackass. He's lying to you. Take my word for it. Been there, done that.  Mine got me for $1850.00 and a pair of Nascar tickets... all because he "loved" me and wanted to "work it out".

Brush him away and wait for the right one...

Good Luck Babe!

I think you're fooling yourself and setting yourself up for heartbreak.  It's your life, and you have to do what you think is right, but all the warning signs are there -- big, huge, waving red flags!