Newbies...Please, Please, Please Listen
I saw a few posts today that made me want to weep for the motional anguish in them. So I want to implore those of you who are starting on this journey to take a few things to heart
1. Do Not Set Time Bound Goals for weight loss - Your body has its own mechanism and its own time frame that its going to lose in. By setting a mark on a calendar for a certain weight you are setting yourself up to possibly fail. You are setting yourself up for a tortured mental process that can trigger all or nothing behavior. I know the temptation is to say.. I want to be 100 lbs down by the holidays, or by this event or that event.
2. Do Not Live and Die By The Scale - You can control whether the scale goes up or down over time. You can not control it day to day or control how fast it goes up and down. Your daily or weekly weight does not matter. What matters is the trend. The rate does not matter. Trust me I am the engineer - I KNOW hopw hard a lesson this is to learn. I mapped my weight loss in a spreadsheet, charted it by day, by calorie deficit, I had rates and derived equaltions (I mean sixth order olynomial equations and linear sets). Its not worth it - its of no value. I wasted my time measuring and obsessing over things that were ultimately of no value. Learn from my mistake.
3. Learn to control what you can and leave the rest to whatever - If you are an evangelical Christian you know the concept of "giving it to God", thats actually something useful here. The only things in our journey we can really control is adherance to our plans for nutrition, exercise, and aftercare. Your weight, your stalls, the capacity of your sleeve, all of that is as controllable as the weather. Some of it you may be able to influence by how compliant you are with your plans, some of it will never be in your control really. Please don't kill yourself with the stress of trying to control or manage things that are really not in your control. Focus your energies on what you can affect, and let the rest go.
4. Be Honest - Not in the George Washington and the Cherry Tree sort of way. This isn't about lying - at least not to others. You have to be more honest with yourself than you ever have been. You have to really understand your own motives, not just for eating but for everything else. Why don't you want to exercise, why don't you want to talk about surgery, why dont you want to go to group. Its not about making the decision that I would make, or frisco would make, or your mom would make. Its not about right and wrong or being judged. Its about understanding yourself and your motivations for your choices. In the end if you really understand WHY you choose to do a certain thing, you can make the best choices for you and your weight loss.
1. Do Not Set Time Bound Goals for weight loss - Your body has its own mechanism and its own time frame that its going to lose in. By setting a mark on a calendar for a certain weight you are setting yourself up to possibly fail. You are setting yourself up for a tortured mental process that can trigger all or nothing behavior. I know the temptation is to say.. I want to be 100 lbs down by the holidays, or by this event or that event.
2. Do Not Live and Die By The Scale - You can control whether the scale goes up or down over time. You can not control it day to day or control how fast it goes up and down. Your daily or weekly weight does not matter. What matters is the trend. The rate does not matter. Trust me I am the engineer - I KNOW hopw hard a lesson this is to learn. I mapped my weight loss in a spreadsheet, charted it by day, by calorie deficit, I had rates and derived equaltions (I mean sixth order olynomial equations and linear sets). Its not worth it - its of no value. I wasted my time measuring and obsessing over things that were ultimately of no value. Learn from my mistake.
3. Learn to control what you can and leave the rest to whatever - If you are an evangelical Christian you know the concept of "giving it to God", thats actually something useful here. The only things in our journey we can really control is adherance to our plans for nutrition, exercise, and aftercare. Your weight, your stalls, the capacity of your sleeve, all of that is as controllable as the weather. Some of it you may be able to influence by how compliant you are with your plans, some of it will never be in your control really. Please don't kill yourself with the stress of trying to control or manage things that are really not in your control. Focus your energies on what you can affect, and let the rest go.
4. Be Honest - Not in the George Washington and the Cherry Tree sort of way. This isn't about lying - at least not to others. You have to be more honest with yourself than you ever have been. You have to really understand your own motives, not just for eating but for everything else. Why don't you want to exercise, why don't you want to talk about surgery, why dont you want to go to group. Its not about making the decision that I would make, or frisco would make, or your mom would make. Its not about right and wrong or being judged. Its about understanding yourself and your motivations for your choices. In the end if you really understand WHY you choose to do a certain thing, you can make the best choices for you and your weight loss.
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160 lbs lost. Surgeons Goal Reached in 33 weeks. My Goal in 37 Weeks.
VSG: 11/2/2011; LBL+Thigh Lift+BL: 10/3/2012; Brach+Mastopexy: 7/22/2013
Very wise, but i think ive given up on try to send these messages. So many people still choose not to listen :-/
www.sexyskinnybitch.wordpress.com - my journey to sexy skinny bitch status
11/16/12 - Got my Body by Sauceda - arms, Bl/BA, LBL, thigh lift.
HW 420/ SW 335 /CW 200 
85 lbs lost pre-op / 135 post op
~~~~Alison~~~~~
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