Xpost-Goal weight and therapy ?
I think I should weigh about 130 to reconcile the image in my head of where I want to end up. . . they both (and my surgeon) says no, that's too low, I should be at 150, which will be perfect for my height and diabetes health. The Tanita machine agrees with them too lol. . .it actually says 150.2 is my ideal weight for my height, body mass and type. Of course, that was NOT what I wanted to hear
Now granted, I'm still 30+ lbs away from hitting that goal. I keep saying we will re-evaluate when I get to 150 and they both put their foot down yesterday and said no way, 130 is unreasonable, and I need to get that out of my head.
How did you decide on where to stop losing? or determining your ideal goal weight?
Maybe I am being unreasonable because it's been so long since I was at those lower weights, and I have this "magic" number stuck in my head that I think I "have to" get to to look the way that I want to. . . . .maybe I will look at 150 how I "think" I will look at 130 .
Also, I see people on the boards suggest therapy alot to others. . . how do you find a therapist that specializes in weight loss and/or bariatrics? or would just any old therapist do? I am curious because I definitely have the body dysmorphia going on so I have considered talking to someone about it to help me get over that, but I don't know that a "regular" therapist could really help with or relate to that . . . .any thoughts or suggestions?
You body will not let you lose too much (ok, a few instances, but not common). We even recommend going 5 or so lbs LOWER than what you want to be so you have some "wiggle and bounce back" room.
Quite frankly, when I have someone arguing with me about something like this, I just shake my head yes and do whatever the Heck I want anyway...
How tall are you?
We all have body dysmorphia - especially at the part of the journey you're at - and it can take a few years to actually catch up to where you're at. I did for awhile, but it didn't take long. Of course I still concentrate on my "problem" areas... I think that's just natural (for me anyway).
HW-218/SW-208/CW-126/ Lowest Weight-121/Goal-125 - hit 8/23/09/Height-5'3"
Regain 30 lbs from 2012 to 2016 - got back on track and lost it. Took 8 months.
90+/- pounds lost BMI - 24 or so
Starting BMI between 35 and 40ish?
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That is EXACTLY what I am concerned about and why I think going towards the lower end of a healthy BMI is a better choice!
LoL. . .that's basically what I did, I said "okay, okay, I will change my goal weight to 150 for now" and they were happy with that.
I am 5'4" so according to the BMI chart I looked at, 150 puts me right at 25. 130 would put me at a BMI of 22, which I still think is healthy AND gives me "wiggle room".
I wasn't at this weight long enough with the Lap Band to really get over the body dysmorphia. It's very frustrating, even though I KNOW I am buying and wearing smaller clothes. I was considering counseling to see if I could speed up working through it. I'm sure I will always focus on my "problem areas". . .I think that's just human nature lol.
The more room you have to play with after the weight loss phase, the better off you will be while trying to maintain.
I am 5'4", so according to the BMI chart I looked at , 150 puts me right at 25 and 130 would put me at a BMI of 22.
I don't want to be in an underweight category or a PITA patient, but I also don't want to screw myself and stop losing weight before my body is ready to! I'm also build very solid, so I can carry more weight than it looks like I do, that's another reason for thinking going a little lower would be okay based on how I am built.
I see my surgeon at the end of the month so I am going to ask him for a "range" he would like to see me in. I'm hoping after talking to him more in depth that he will agree with my reasoning. . .than HE can tell the Diabetes Nurse and Dietitian to adjust their numbers lol
PS -- Thanks for the Ticker advice, as you can see, I went and got mine from where you got yours!
I will say, keep losing til your body decides...my surgeon wanted me to stop at 145...I was not happy with that but had I stopped, it would have been fine. I kept going anyway...didn't change my diet.
Duodenal Switch (Lap) 01-24-11 | Surgeon: Stephen Boyce | High weight: 250 in 2002 | Surgery weight: 203 | Lowest weight: 121 | Current weight: 135 | Goal weight: 135
I like that plan, I just may borrow it!
I just grabbed a random BMI chart online. . .the one they were using was the same as the numbers I found. I'm wondering if their charts aren't a bit outdated. . . .
I'm not sure why they got so worked up about it, but for what ever reason it sent them both into a tizzy!
I was a little taken aback to be honest; I thought they would be on board with me wanting to be at a lower weight, and the reason we were discussing it was because they ASKED me what my goals were, and that included my goal weight.
I figure I have several months to go to lose another 30-something pounds so we have plenty of time to re-evaluate.
I dunno, maybe I just caught them on a bad day