o/a The ****e i****ting the fan
I think you & hubby need to move on from each other (like yesterday)...seriously think of everything you two are going through in front of DSS (he's old enough that he's understanding EVERYTHING even when you two *think* he's not hearing) and the baggage he already had as it is! All this home drama isn't good for him (seems that both you and hub are both a little f’ed up right now). The real ****ty thing is that even if you and hub split tomorrow the financial **** will still follow you until all matrimonial finances are settled so you need to cut your losses before things get any deeper.
Hugs Heather we’re here for you!!
HW 290/ SW 250/ GW 140-145/ LW 120/ CW 168
REACHED GOAL IN 8 MONTHS WITH MY DS!!!
FEB.22/ 08>> DS & JAN.23/ 09>> Breast Lift, Fleur de lis abdominoplasty, hernia repair
NOTE: My weight crept back up over the last 2.5 years, but I'm gonna stop that shit NOW!
Hijack~ I'm curious as to why she shouldn't pay alimony if the shoe fits? Would we say that to a hubby if the tables were turned>> quick run to a lawyer so you don’t pay alimony cause your wife choose not to work? Probably not. I def don't agree with the whole step-mom paying cs though.
HW 290/ SW 250/ GW 140-145/ LW 120/ CW 168
REACHED GOAL IN 8 MONTHS WITH MY DS!!!
FEB.22/ 08>> DS & JAN.23/ 09>> Breast Lift, Fleur de lis abdominoplasty, hernia repair
NOTE: My weight crept back up over the last 2.5 years, but I'm gonna stop that shit NOW!
Actually if a partner has actively taken on raising a step child they can very well be expected to continue to support them. I know of several guys that supported step kids for a period of time and when the relationship collapsed the court ordered them to continue support. That's why I think it's extremely important for people to be aware of legal implications at the START of relationships so they can recognize what they are getting into.
I get what you're saying. 
I think the person that's judging your situation the hardest is yourself! I am so sorry to read that you're going through all this. You already know deep down the right answer to your own questions. I can read it in your post. From what I'm reading, you have been an amazing person to put up with all you have for as long as you have. Listen to your heart and do what's right for Heather.
Good Luck XO
i am in a real bad financial problem right now too...basically have to choose between rent and other bills so other bills are on the back burner for now. i have nothing in my fridge besides water and a couple things i have gotten for after my surgery...
thank God my mom said shes goign to buy my vitamins or i would be screwed.
i hope things get better for you and me as well. money sucks!
Barix Consultation May 26, 2009 OHIP Papers Faxed May 29, 2009
OHIP APPROVAL JULY 14, 2009!! PATS August 3rd, 2009
Surgery August 13th, 2009
Starting Weight: 278 lbs
Current Weight: 109 lbs Total loss so far of 169 lbs BMI 18.7
Just know that I love ya, And if I went that way i would tell you to leave your hubby and BF to be with me.. Too bad i don't eat carpet.. LoL.. Hope that makes ya laugh? :)
My Angel is Sharon (MDwife)
OHIP received OOC application - June 15, 2009
Consultation at Barix with Dr. Pop - June 29, 2009
OOC approval - July 21, 2009
Received surgery date from Barix - August 17, 2009
PATS at Barix - October 5, 2009 (My birthday)
SURGERY DATE - October 14, 2009
"Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. And today?? Today is a gift. That's why they call it the present."
HW at consultation 245 * SW237.8 * CW178 * GW125
*-67 LBS.
Thank you Cheri and Holly!Think twice, cut once! I've had 3 surgeries now, RNY, VSG and DS
.Ask me about the DS or visit dsfacts.com
2002 - RNY
2010 - RNY to VSG
2011 - Full DS-August 24th
HW 311 SW 306 CW 235 GW 150
