o/a The ****e i****ting the fan

Those who know me know that right now I am going thru a really really hard time. I just had a good friend pass away (Marg), my husband hadn't had a paycheck for 9 months up till 2 weeks ago and now he is getting small pays (this was his own doing not anyone else's) I am possibly splitting up from my husband, if I don't split from my husband then I am splitting up from my boyfriend (yeah yeah I know...) both oh whom I love dearly. I have a stepson that lives with us who I have to tell this to. We have not had ho****er in our house for over a month now (couldn't afford the bill), our home phone and cable were cut last week (couldn't afford the bill), my husbands cell phone was just disconnected yesterday (again, no money) and we are waiting on the sheriff to show up at our door with the final eviction notice (again, no money)

Yesterday I told my husband I can't deal with any of this anymore and I was thinking about leaving him. I kinda said that if one more thing got cut or whatever that I would be out of there.

Today our hydro got cut.

I don't know what to do. I am so torn. I am so sad.

Aww Heather, I am so sorry you are going through all this. I've been there many times, believe it or not, with things being cut off, losing my house, having to choose between two men....none of it fun that's for sure. I'd love to tell you one of those old cliches that things can only get better or something to that effect but I know that's not going to help. I wish there was something I could do for you to help you out. My thoughts are with you and I hope things do get better soon and that you can make the decisions that will give you peace.

Heather you already know what I think you should do.  If you have a boyfriend, then I'm sorry but you ended the marriage the minute that relationship started.  Stop torchering yourself and get out, you deserve to have hot showers and be happy. 

sure sounds like it is going there anyway......

:(

break the bond and move on, like kellybelly said

Heather my gosh can you have any more problems , how do u sleep at night I really really feel for you. I think if you have a boyfreind and he can give you more take it and run as fast as you can. No one deserves what your going through. Make a list of good and bad about the two and see which one has more good than bad in his columb, I know it sounds childess but honestly thats how I try to slove some of my problems. All I can say is good luck follow your heart and do whats good for YOU no one else!!!!

Thinking about you, Lise

okay chickie. It's time for that lunch/after work drink we've been promising each other. Call me. I'm here and you work close to me.

Heather, that is so bad!
I feel for you and know what you are going through been there myself, lost my house, got everything cut off and lost a husband too (he cheated and left me pregnant)  it's not easy and at the time we are going through this **** we think we will never get out, but you will.
I say move on, it might be the best thing for you, but again only you know what you feel this is just my opinion.  You can still have contact with your step son if you want and he wants even if you leave.
Good luck!  I wish you all the best.

By the way my surgery with Dr Nanda for my implants and Tummy tuck is in Octber, I saw you that day there at his office and that was the soonest they had.

Take care, hun and I am here if you ever want to chat!
Sandy

On a lighter note I can't weigh in on choosing between the bf or hubby without seeing pics.

You hang in there, I'm thinking it's just got to get better - hopefully very, very soon.

Actually when I said hang in there I didn't necessarily mean with the hubby, it truly does sound like you need a clean break.   I think moving back in with the parents will give you the breathing space you need to make more permanent decisions.

I'm so sorry you're going through this Heather. It's sad when a relationship gets to the end... which is where it sounds like you guys are. I think moving on is what you need to do.

Hope things get better for you soon!

Why not move the boyfriend in to help pay the bills. It seems like it doesn't bother you to have a husband and a boyfriend.  Nothing like waiting for the sheriff to evict you, you should have left months ago when you knew you couldn't afford your rent.  Way to rip off your landlord, you stay there until the sheriff tells you to get your butt out.