Getting ready for 1st insemination next month!

Do it while you can!!! My DW (the straight people have their DH-dear husband, I have a DW-dear wife) is 37 and I'm 32. We didn't want to wait much longer either! We're healthy NOW!!!!

I am just curious... My wife and I talked about unknown donor all the way just because I would be so scared that the known donor would back out and then want a part in the life of my baby?!? I would be devastated if that happened. If you take a known donor how does all of that work?

And i am right there with you both!! I am keeping everything private until I am pregnant. I would hate to have family know and all this pressure and possiblly have troubles getting pregnant. When my wife and i first discussed us wanting kids that was my first thought. And then we decided that i would be the one to carry just in case i cant she would step in but i really really would be jealous of her i have that want so bad to carry a child that she really doesn’t have, I am not saying she doesn’t want a child she is going to be an amazing mother but doesn’t really have that want to give birth or go through the changes through the pregnancy. But i just want to know what it feels like to be pregnant!!

My fiance & I really wanted a known donor so we could find out more abt him & so our child would have the option of knowing his/her bio dad@ age 18 by their own choice. We also wanted the donor to sign his parental rights away so the my fiance could adopt our child.

I've always wanted chidren and wanted to carry. My fiance has always wanted children but doesn't want to carry. So it works out perfectly for us.

Hey Maryn, no answers for you just wanted to send you many blessings and love.

Hope your baby dreams come true!

Leila

Thanks Leila!

First thought I'd have is that unless your dr is doing tests to show your FSH levels and/or ovarian reserves are indicating that you are coming up on menopause soon...take what s/he's saying w/a grain of salt.  Just 'cause you're 40 (welcome to the AMA - Adavance Maternal Age - Club by the way) doesn't mean you will necessarily have trouble getting pregnant.  DH and I started ttc #2 (finally...we have a now 15 1/2 year old) almost three years ago, three months before I turned 40 (I'm now 42 1/2).  I got pg on my first try.  You'll see all my 'history' here, it's no secret, and it's not necessarily a happy one...but read on, I'm not trying to discourage you....more to encourage you.  That pregnancy ended in a mc, I waited a few months, tried again, got pg on the first try...mc again.  Waited a few months to ttc again, took three months and got pg again...all three 'naturally' (ie no fertility drugs).  After mc #3, due to my own mentally screaming biological clock, I did IUI to speed the process up...got pg on the first try...mc again.  After a year - trying off and on (a lot going on, preparing to move around the world), I got pg a fifth time, only to mc again.

My point in telling you all this is not to tell you so much about all my miscarriages...they're a fact I'm dealing with...but more to tell you that it is possible, even at our 'advanced' age - to get pregnant very quickly and very easily.  Every dr I've had - until now - has blamed my miscarriages on my age...said it was bad eggs.  I do test positive for three blood clotting disorders, and the dr I have now is prone to believe that that is the problem.  Just to back up her theory, this last miscarriage (a month ago) was the frst time I've lived in a country where they could do genetic testing (remember - genetics is the presumed problem w/the bad eggs from my age)...and the genetic testing came back normal...which means there's most likely a physical problem that's causing my mc.  Which means it's not likely to happen to you...that you could very likely get pg the first time you try...and end up with a happy and healthy pregnancy and baby. 

Drs will automatically tell you that at 40, you're going to have a difficult time getting pregnant, because not as many 40+ year old women get pregnant...but look at it from a different angle.  How many 40+ year old women are TRYING to get pregnant?  Of course there's going to be a lower pregnancy rate if less women are even trying to get pregnant, right?

Best of luck to you both.  Hopefully you'll take one page from my book and be able to get pg on the first try...

Holly,

I'm so sorry to hear about the mc's.  That must be so heartbreaking everytime.  My dr is not worried at all about my conception.  She feels quite confident that now that i'm naturally ovulating on a very regular basis and my FSH levels look very good that I'll have no problem getting pg.  She just wants me to get pg sooner rather than later.  She's got me on 5mg/day of folic plus prenatals for some time now.  So we're doing everything to ensure a speedy conception, healthy pregnancy, and healthy baby.  I would LOVE to take the speedy conception page from your book.  

Wishing you and your DH luck in your future endevors to bring another child into your family.

~Maryn

Thanks.  I'm trying to take things one step at a time...if I start looking back or too far ahead, it's a lot more difficult. 

I'm glad you have a dr who's willing to put aside the biological clock issue for a bit and look at you as an individual rather than an age.  Hopefully you will conceive the first try out...have that one...and still have plenty of biological time to try for #2!  LOL

 

Yeah, my obgyn is really happy w/my health. She says I'm the healthiest I've ever been as an adult. Imagine what dropping. 135 lbs does for a woman! My dr is awesome.

Hi Holly!!!

I will be so happy when you get and keep a sticky bean!  Sorry about your most recent loss( I couldn't post during that time because my computer crashed and I didn't know my pw). I'm curious though, you only started TTC again 2+ years ago? Why - did you not want more after Khaled (spel?) or did your feelings change about wanting more?  And did you have any issues conceiving him and holding the pregnancy.

(((HUGS)))
Leila