Ummmm why do I do this???
I really don't understand myself sometimes. I most of the time crave healthy food. I am totally aware of what I need to be eating and plan my day but then I choose bad choices KNOWINGLY. At the mall where I work there is a cookie place and Iw as craving a cookie today. I bought two mini cookies even though as I stood at the counter I thought "I don't really want this. It will taste good but it will not be worth how I will feel, the guilt, and it won't help my health." AND I DID IT ANYWAY!!! WHAT THE HELL????????????
And I type this as I am eating a piece of pizza. WTF!
Please don't flame me............. I am flaming myself enough for all of us.
And I type this as I am eating a piece of pizza. WTF!
Please don't flame me............. I am flaming myself enough for all of us.
Height - 5'8 - SW - 292/ CW - 177.6 /GW - 150 - BMI - 27.1 - 114.4 lbs lost!
"The fishermen know that the sea is dangerous and the storm terrible, but they have never found these dangers sufficient reason for remaining ashore" Vincent Van Gogh
"The fishermen know that the sea is dangerous and the storm terrible, but they have never found these dangers sufficient reason for remaining ashore" Vincent Van Gogh
Don't beat yourself up too much. You are going to have bad days. This is a change of lifestyle that can take time to get used too. My surgeon has told my husband and I not to deprive ourselves. If you deprive yourself, then the cravings will be even worse. You know what you need to do to get back on track. Put the pizza down and go have some protein.
Highest Weight - 220/ Date of Surgery - 194/ Goal Weight - 125 CW 122 2nd Goal - 115
Guess what I am eating right now? The crumbs at the bottom of a bag of tortilla chips. So I know how it is.
It's a piece of pizza. It's not a big deal. One piece of pizza is not that bad. If it's making you feel bad, put it down NOW. Otherwise, finish that piece and go do something. How about taking a short walk? It's pretty nice outside here. How about calling someone on the phone? How about cleaning the bathroom? Something.
Have a nice protein shake or something similar for a snack later on.
It's a piece of pizza. It's not a big deal. One piece of pizza is not that bad. If it's making you feel bad, put it down NOW. Otherwise, finish that piece and go do something. How about taking a short walk? It's pretty nice outside here. How about calling someone on the phone? How about cleaning the bathroom? Something.
Have a nice protein shake or something similar for a snack later on.
Kelly
Please note: I AM NOT A DOCTOR. If you want medical advice, talk to your doctor. Whatever I post, there is probably some surgeon or other health care provider somewhere that disagrees with me. If you want to know what your surgeon thinks, then ask him or her. Check out my blog.
46_11tobeme
on 9/25/11 9:13 am - NJ
on 9/25/11 9:13 am - NJ
I am pre-op and know all about beating yourself up for bad decisions. Dont do it - beating yourself up usually leads to more bad decisions. We are human. focus on your success so far!
Question though - do you experience dumping after eating sweets or high fat foods? I have not had surgery yet but was told by the surgeon that not everyone experiences dumping syndrome.
Question though - do you experience dumping after eating sweets or high fat foods? I have not had surgery yet but was told by the surgeon that not everyone experiences dumping syndrome.
I am 7 months out and I have not dumped on anything yet. I try to limit my sugar intake and eat sugar free foods, but even when I have had items with sugar in them, I have also not dumped on fatty foods either, but again I try to limit the fats that I eat daily. I have not had any problems. It will be trial and error. Just make sure when you are trying things you do it at home. Good Luck with your surgery
Highest Weight - 220/ Date of Surgery - 194/ Goal Weight - 125 CW 122 2nd Goal - 115
I always love your posts, you are so honest! I don't really know what the poster above me is talking about....I'm not sure she read your post at all!
I know that YOU know what good choices are. I also do the same exact thing. Like last weekend I was at my mom's house and she bought this choc covered popcorn from the Boy Scouts and I found that I could eat a small handful and not get sick. So I did, and then I did again and then later I did again! WTF! I knew it was wrong! I usually stay away from that stuff no problem.
It happens! What can you do? We are going to eat cookies and pizza and drink beer, it is life.
Here is what I am thinking. I am going t try to make sure then when I indulge, I only do it once that day, meaning if I eat a cookie then I will avoid the pizza for dinner. This way I can still curb a craving but not go over board.
Plus, I don't think one piece of pizza makes anyone fat. Neither do 2 small cookies.
You are doing so well, don't spend too much time beating yourself up. Enjoy the pizza and have a salad. Eat good tomorrow. You are awesome!
I know that YOU know what good choices are. I also do the same exact thing. Like last weekend I was at my mom's house and she bought this choc covered popcorn from the Boy Scouts and I found that I could eat a small handful and not get sick. So I did, and then I did again and then later I did again! WTF! I knew it was wrong! I usually stay away from that stuff no problem.
It happens! What can you do? We are going to eat cookies and pizza and drink beer, it is life.
Here is what I am thinking. I am going t try to make sure then when I indulge, I only do it once that day, meaning if I eat a cookie then I will avoid the pizza for dinner. This way I can still curb a craving but not go over board.
Plus, I don't think one piece of pizza makes anyone fat. Neither do 2 small cookies.
You are doing so well, don't spend too much time beating yourself up. Enjoy the pizza and have a salad. Eat good tomorrow. You are awesome!
The question isn’t who is going to let me; it’s who is going to stop me. ~ Ayn Rand
Been there, done that.........I have learned there are no forbidden foods, and no good or bad foods. I just need to be aware of my choices all the time and make sure I am getting at least 80 grams of protein a day. My wls counselor recommended a book Intuitive eating by Tribole it helped me a lot--here are the basic principles from their web page
10 Principles
1. Reject the Diet Mentality Throw out the diet books and magazine articles that offer you false hope of losing weight quickly, easily, and permanently. Get angry at the lies that have led you to feel as if you were a failure every time a new diet stopped working and you gained back all of the weight. If you allow even one small hope to linger that a new and better diet might be lurking around the corner, it will prevent you from being free to rediscover Intuitive Eating.
2. Honor Your Hunger Keep your body biologically fed with adequate energy and carbohydrates. Otherwise you can trigger a primal drive to overeat. Once you reach the moment of excessive hunger, all intentions of moderate, conscious eating are fleeting and irrelevant. Learning to honor this first biological signal sets the stage for re-building trust with yourself and food.
3. Make Peace with Food Call a truce, stop the food fight! Give yourself unconditional permission to eat. If you tell yourself that you can't or shouldn't have a particular food, it can lead to intense feelings of deprivation that build into uncontrollable cravings and, often, bingeing When you finally "give-in" to your forbidden food, eating will be experienced with such intensity, it usually results in Last Supper overeating, and overwhelming guilt.
4. Challenge the Food Police .Scream a loud "NO" to thoughts in your head that declare you're "good" for eating under 1000 calories or "bad" because you ate a piece of chocolate cake. The Food Police monitor the unreasonable rules that dieting has created . The police station is housed deep in your psyche, and its loud speaker shouts negative barbs, hopeless phrases, and guilt-provoking indictments. Chasing the Food Police away is a critical step in returning to Intuitive Eating.
5. Respect Your Fullness Listen for the body signals that tell you that you are no longer hungry. Observe the signs that show that you're comfortably full. Pause in the middle of a meal or food and ask yourself how the food tastes, and what is your current fullness level?
6. Discover the Satisfaction Factor The Japanese have the wisdom to promote pleasure as one of their goals of healthy living In our fury to be thin and healthy, we often overlook one of the most basic gifts of existence--the pleasure and satisfaction that can be found in the eating experience. When you eat what you really want, in an environment that is inviting and conducive, the pleasure you derive will be a powerful force in helping you feel satisfied and content. By providing this experience for yourself, you will find that it takes much less food to decide you've had "enough".
7. Honor Your Feelings Without Using Food Find ways to comfort , nurture, distract, and resolve your issues without using food. Anxiety, loneliness, boredom, anger are emotions we all experience throughout life. Each has its own trigger, and each has its own appeasement. Food won't fix any of these feelings. It may comfort for the short term, distract from the pain, or even numb you into a food hangover. But food won't solve the problem. If anything, eating for an emotional hunger will only make you feel worse in the long run. You'll ultimately have to deal with the source of the emotion, as well as the discomfort of overeating.
8. Respect Your Body Accept your genetic blueprint. Just as a person with a shoe size of eight would not expect to realistically squeeze into a size six, it is equally as futile (and uncomfortable) to have the same expectation with body size. But mostly, respect your body, so you can feel better about who you are. It's hard to reject the diet mentality if you are unrealistic and overly critical about your body shape.
9. Exercise--Feel the Difference Forget militant exercise. Just get active and feel the difference. Shift your focus to how it feels to move your body, rather than the calorie burning effect of exercise. If you focus on how you feel from working out, such as energized, it can make the difference between rolling out of bed for a brisk morning walk or hitting the snooze alarm. If when you wake up, your only goal is to lose weight, it's usually not a motivating factor in that moment of time.
10 Honor Your Health--Gentle Nutrition Make food choices that honor your health and tastebuds while making you feel well. Remember that you don't have to eat a perfect diet to be healthy. You will not suddenly get a nutrient deficiency or gain weight from one snack, one meal, or one day of eating. It's what you eat consistently over time that matters, progress not perfection is what counts.
http://www.intuitiveeating.org/content/10-principles
10 Principles
1. Reject the Diet Mentality Throw out the diet books and magazine articles that offer you false hope of losing weight quickly, easily, and permanently. Get angry at the lies that have led you to feel as if you were a failure every time a new diet stopped working and you gained back all of the weight. If you allow even one small hope to linger that a new and better diet might be lurking around the corner, it will prevent you from being free to rediscover Intuitive Eating.
2. Honor Your Hunger Keep your body biologically fed with adequate energy and carbohydrates. Otherwise you can trigger a primal drive to overeat. Once you reach the moment of excessive hunger, all intentions of moderate, conscious eating are fleeting and irrelevant. Learning to honor this first biological signal sets the stage for re-building trust with yourself and food.
3. Make Peace with Food Call a truce, stop the food fight! Give yourself unconditional permission to eat. If you tell yourself that you can't or shouldn't have a particular food, it can lead to intense feelings of deprivation that build into uncontrollable cravings and, often, bingeing When you finally "give-in" to your forbidden food, eating will be experienced with such intensity, it usually results in Last Supper overeating, and overwhelming guilt.
4. Challenge the Food Police .Scream a loud "NO" to thoughts in your head that declare you're "good" for eating under 1000 calories or "bad" because you ate a piece of chocolate cake. The Food Police monitor the unreasonable rules that dieting has created . The police station is housed deep in your psyche, and its loud speaker shouts negative barbs, hopeless phrases, and guilt-provoking indictments. Chasing the Food Police away is a critical step in returning to Intuitive Eating.
5. Respect Your Fullness Listen for the body signals that tell you that you are no longer hungry. Observe the signs that show that you're comfortably full. Pause in the middle of a meal or food and ask yourself how the food tastes, and what is your current fullness level?
6. Discover the Satisfaction Factor The Japanese have the wisdom to promote pleasure as one of their goals of healthy living In our fury to be thin and healthy, we often overlook one of the most basic gifts of existence--the pleasure and satisfaction that can be found in the eating experience. When you eat what you really want, in an environment that is inviting and conducive, the pleasure you derive will be a powerful force in helping you feel satisfied and content. By providing this experience for yourself, you will find that it takes much less food to decide you've had "enough".
7. Honor Your Feelings Without Using Food Find ways to comfort , nurture, distract, and resolve your issues without using food. Anxiety, loneliness, boredom, anger are emotions we all experience throughout life. Each has its own trigger, and each has its own appeasement. Food won't fix any of these feelings. It may comfort for the short term, distract from the pain, or even numb you into a food hangover. But food won't solve the problem. If anything, eating for an emotional hunger will only make you feel worse in the long run. You'll ultimately have to deal with the source of the emotion, as well as the discomfort of overeating.
8. Respect Your Body Accept your genetic blueprint. Just as a person with a shoe size of eight would not expect to realistically squeeze into a size six, it is equally as futile (and uncomfortable) to have the same expectation with body size. But mostly, respect your body, so you can feel better about who you are. It's hard to reject the diet mentality if you are unrealistic and overly critical about your body shape.
9. Exercise--Feel the Difference Forget militant exercise. Just get active and feel the difference. Shift your focus to how it feels to move your body, rather than the calorie burning effect of exercise. If you focus on how you feel from working out, such as energized, it can make the difference between rolling out of bed for a brisk morning walk or hitting the snooze alarm. If when you wake up, your only goal is to lose weight, it's usually not a motivating factor in that moment of time.
10 Honor Your Health--Gentle Nutrition Make food choices that honor your health and tastebuds while making you feel well. Remember that you don't have to eat a perfect diet to be healthy. You will not suddenly get a nutrient deficiency or gain weight from one snack, one meal, or one day of eating. It's what you eat consistently over time that matters, progress not perfection is what counts.
http://www.intuitiveeating.org/content/10-principles
HW 278 SW 259 GW 170 CW 142 Ht 5ft 6
I really liked the post above - may have to look into getting that book - but just wanted to pass this on to you: fight the cycle of guilt & abuse! You made the decision of the cookie or the pizza - face that fact! When you let guilt or the "I'm so bad"s take the wheel, that triggers you to abuse yourself further and punish yourself further. So stop it! You made what YOU deem a bad choice. It's one choice. You can compensate for it with healthier choices and focus on that instead of flagellating yourself and focusing on the bad choice.
Do I make bad choices at times? Hell yeah! It's usually the bad choice of flicking someone off in traffic, or buying clothes I really don't need. Do I beat myself up for the next 12 hours? No, because it's not going to take me anywhere constructive.
Do I make bad choices at times? Hell yeah! It's usually the bad choice of flicking someone off in traffic, or buying clothes I really don't need. Do I beat myself up for the next 12 hours? No, because it's not going to take me anywhere constructive.
First ultra: Stone Mill 50 miler 11/15/14 13:44:38, First Full Marathon: Marine Corps 10/27/13 4:57:11, Half Marathon PR 2:04:43 at Shamrock VA Beach Half-Marathon, 12/2/12 First Half-Marathon 2:32:47, 5K PR Run Under the Lights 5K 27:23 on 11/23/13, 10K PR 52:53 Pike's Peek 10K 4/21/13, (1st timed run) Accumen 8K 51:09 10/14/12.
@ Lisa R.--- That post above you, was answering a question in the post above her. No negativity here, please. We all beat ourselves up every day we don't need to come here and have someone make snide remarks to our comments or post, OK? 
As to the original post, I'm still pre op but I know how you feel. I think that to myself everyday. I told my Dr. that if I could just have someone walk around with me all day and just slap my hand and say, "NO!" I'd be fine.
But like the one poster said, even if you are in mid bite, and think to yourself, "I don't want this, I don't need this" throw it away. I've found myself doing that a lot in the past few months. I have to do it fast before I change my mind and even if I've already eaten half of it I still feel better because I made the decision to stop.
It's not one day at a time, it's one minute at a time...
As to the original post, I'm still pre op but I know how you feel. I think that to myself everyday. I told my Dr. that if I could just have someone walk around with me all day and just slap my hand and say, "NO!" I'd be fine.
But like the one poster said, even if you are in mid bite, and think to yourself, "I don't want this, I don't need this" throw it away. I've found myself doing that a lot in the past few months. I have to do it fast before I change my mind and even if I've already eaten half of it I still feel better because I made the decision to stop. It's not one day at a time, it's one minute at a time...
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