Quote Challenge from Nik!

Aug 14, 2010

"Unvoiced expectations are resentments in waiting..."

I agree. Seriously, the smart alec part of me figures I should just stop right there... But, in an effort to look like I made an effort, I'll keep going... I think not only do unvoiced expectations cause resentments, but also unvoiced wishes and dreams do as well... There are so many times I find myself wishing my husband or children would do something differently. Most of the times these things don't escalate into resentments, because I do talk about them. But, sometimes something will come up that I'm too afraid to bring up or that I have brought up before and dropped for whatever reason. This happens more with my darling husband than my daughters because I didn't raise him so he is not as compliant about doing things how I like them done, lol...

As a matter of fact, I know I drive him crazy over some things too... For instance, the toilet paper roll... I grew up in a house where nobody put the roll back on the dispenser, it just sat there perpendicularly until my mom threw a fit about it and fixed it. Mind you, she didn't put it on there either most of the time, but she was the one who didn't like it that way. She also felt (and I agree) that if the tp is on the dispenser, it should be coming over the top and not under and in the back. SO, I learned how to do it right, but also that it was not really that big of a deal unless someone was coming over... My husband, on the other hand, is a firm believer that tp should always be on the dispenser so it makes him a little crazy when I don't put it there... So, anytime he goes after I go, he will fix the tp on the dispenser, but he doesn't really care if it is coming over the top or out the back... So, half the time, I would get irritated that he did it wrong, but he was irritated that I didn't do it at all... So, it works in both directions. And, then we talked about it and now we have it all worked out. Most of the time, I put it on the dispenser, but if I don't, he does and does it the right way, lol...

But, really this topic is meant to be deep, and I know that I should handle it a bit more respectfully, but the thing is, I don't have any examples of something deep that I'm willing to put out there on the internet... I just don't. I think it is so important that people communicate in their lives with one another, or even just with themselves. If you can't say out loud what you are trying to make happen to yourself or to someone else, you really cripple yourself and set yourself up for failure and/or disappointment. It's like when you have written a script about how you think something should go, and everyone else is screwing up their lines... But, if you didn't give them a copy of the script, you can't get mad at them for not knowing their lines... So, hand over your script, or better yet give up your script and let what they say be the perfect thing at that moment... Because I've noticed that just because they didn't say exactly what I wanted them to say or what I thought they would say, doesn't mean they aren't saying something good. :-D

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