Darla S.
oops...
Nov 08, 2010
There went another month and a half without any of my random thoughts...
The stress train kept on barreling through my life in October - More ups and downs in the ass-wipe boyfriend department for my precious daughter, but I'm HAPPY to report that they are DONE!!!
It took her quite a while to realize that it HAD to be all or none with that loser. When she asked me to BLOCK his number from her cell phone, I KNEW it was FINALLY OVER! I had a few words for him - nothing offensive, just asked him to accept the fact that it's over and leave her alone, that I couldn't understand why he would continue to press her about their relationship when he had to KNOW how she felt about him (DONE). I mean really - she has told you she's done with you, that she wants you to leave her alone, she's interested in someone else, and MOM DETESTS YOU. I'm sorry, but what exactly are you clinging to? Our revulsion?
Anyway, Rich got really sick in October and to make a long story short, he spent 6 nights in the hospital (after having made 2 trips to the ER). Some kind of lung fungus or mold thing that made him cough HORRIBLY, and he was unable to keep his blood oxygen at an acceptable level. Given how skeptical I already am about whether or not our marriage has a future, that was lots of fun - NOT. Money problems just keep getting worse and worse, because he's not aggressive enough to seek out other avenues for his painting business. Just keeps waiting for his old company to give him work. The one he WANTED to investigate just SCREAMED 'SCAM!!!' (Pay some guy $49 a month and he'll keep you busy? yeah, right...)
My doc (PCP) prescribed me something to help with sleep, which has been a God send - seems to take the edge off my nasty attitude towards the husband a bit, too. ugh. I TRY to hide it from the kids, but I have to believe they sense it, even if they can't define what it is they sense. I WANT to repair our relationship, but honestly? I don't know if it's even possible anymore. He's in denial about how bad it is, even tho I have TOLD him I'm *thisclose* to being done with it, and he doesn't seem to want to put out much effort with the counseling. That in itself is more destructive than anything else. You don't want to try? Then what's left to hold onto? He hasn't bailed on it yet, and I pray he doesn't.
I have managed to lose a few pounds towards my goal of ONEDERLAND BY FEB. 27th - that's the day I leave for Punta Cana with 3 of the dearest friends I have ever been blessed with - I CAN'T WAIT!!! I'm almost afraid that I'm SOOO excited for it, there's no way it could live up to my fantasies! - perfect weather, just the right amount of intoxication to have a REALLY good time WITHOUT getting TOO drunk or hung over, a savage tan without a burn, fabulous food but no gain, you name it. Dancing, laughing, relaxing, maybe even a little shopping... Yup, this is gonna be one heckuva vacation I may have to rob a bank for spending money, or just not spend a damn thing, but I'm fairly close to having the trip paid for.
Anyway, I guess it's all just one day at a time. Life, WLS, one day at a time. More than that is too intimidating. I'll tell you one thing, tho - I'm sure a different person now than I was even a year ago. That giddy, happy, silly person I used to be has sobered up quite a bit - and I'm not talking about drinking, that's not an issue. Life has just presented me with too many challenges. My hubby would love to blame them all on my losing weight, but that's a bunch of hooey. If I had to endure all these stresses as my former food-medicated self, I'd be dead by 50.
Yup, that's me, a party on a stick these days. No wonder I don't post here more often - I depress myself.
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The stress train kept on barreling through my life in October - More ups and downs in the ass-wipe boyfriend department for my precious daughter, but I'm HAPPY to report that they are DONE!!!
It took her quite a while to realize that it HAD to be all or none with that loser. When she asked me to BLOCK his number from her cell phone, I KNEW it was FINALLY OVER! I had a few words for him - nothing offensive, just asked him to accept the fact that it's over and leave her alone, that I couldn't understand why he would continue to press her about their relationship when he had to KNOW how she felt about him (DONE). I mean really - she has told you she's done with you, that she wants you to leave her alone, she's interested in someone else, and MOM DETESTS YOU. I'm sorry, but what exactly are you clinging to? Our revulsion?
Anyway, Rich got really sick in October and to make a long story short, he spent 6 nights in the hospital (after having made 2 trips to the ER). Some kind of lung fungus or mold thing that made him cough HORRIBLY, and he was unable to keep his blood oxygen at an acceptable level. Given how skeptical I already am about whether or not our marriage has a future, that was lots of fun - NOT. Money problems just keep getting worse and worse, because he's not aggressive enough to seek out other avenues for his painting business. Just keeps waiting for his old company to give him work. The one he WANTED to investigate just SCREAMED 'SCAM!!!' (Pay some guy $49 a month and he'll keep you busy? yeah, right...)
My doc (PCP) prescribed me something to help with sleep, which has been a God send - seems to take the edge off my nasty attitude towards the husband a bit, too. ugh. I TRY to hide it from the kids, but I have to believe they sense it, even if they can't define what it is they sense. I WANT to repair our relationship, but honestly? I don't know if it's even possible anymore. He's in denial about how bad it is, even tho I have TOLD him I'm *thisclose* to being done with it, and he doesn't seem to want to put out much effort with the counseling. That in itself is more destructive than anything else. You don't want to try? Then what's left to hold onto? He hasn't bailed on it yet, and I pray he doesn't.
I have managed to lose a few pounds towards my goal of ONEDERLAND BY FEB. 27th - that's the day I leave for Punta Cana with 3 of the dearest friends I have ever been blessed with - I CAN'T WAIT!!! I'm almost afraid that I'm SOOO excited for it, there's no way it could live up to my fantasies! - perfect weather, just the right amount of intoxication to have a REALLY good time WITHOUT getting TOO drunk or hung over, a savage tan without a burn, fabulous food but no gain, you name it. Dancing, laughing, relaxing, maybe even a little shopping... Yup, this is gonna be one heckuva vacation
I may have to rob a bank for spending money, or just not spend a damn thing, but I'm fairly close to having the trip paid for. Anyway, I guess it's all just one day at a time. Life, WLS, one day at a time. More than that is too intimidating. I'll tell you one thing, tho - I'm sure a different person now than I was even a year ago. That giddy, happy, silly person I used to be has sobered up quite a bit - and I'm not talking about drinking, that's not an issue. Life has just presented me with too many challenges. My hubby would love to blame them all on my losing weight, but that's a bunch of hooey. If I had to endure all these stresses as my former food-medicated self, I'd be dead by 50.
Yup, that's me, a party on a stick these days. No wonder I don't post here more often - I depress myself.
I love Autumn!
Sep 14, 2010
As for the State Fair? I did well - tried gator, but never found the camel. Had 1/3 of an order of cheese curds, tried fried pickles, 1/2 a cheddar beef stick, had a taste of 2 different "fudge puppies", honestly? I didn't eat very much at all! Never even had my beloved pork chop! Nor did I do the giant slide - but I DID go on both sky rides with no fear or embarassement, and we DID cruise through many campers! Yes, I fit through the doors better and don't rock them like I used to, but DAMN! Being tall is still an issue when it comes to passing through the doors of some of the smaller ones... YOWCH! I actually have a small scab on my noggin!
But Autumn? I really, REALLY LOVE it!!! Cooler temps (even tho the heat doesn't really bother me anymore), all the nasty skeeters dying an untimely death, hoodies, apples, bonfires and camping - YAY FALL!!! It's always been my favorite season - the weather we've had these past few days could just stay like this until early November as far as I'm concerned
There have been stresses, to be sure - a daughter with a loser pansy of a boyfriend, drama within a group of really dear friends, I guess life happens. People change, I change, situations change... Change really IS the only thing guaranteed besides death and taxes. We have to adapt. We have to choose how we want to react to it. I've learned a LOT about myself in this past year, with regard to what I am willing to tolerate. I learned that I have limits to my compassion, and that when a relationship brings more anxiety than joy, well, maybe the reason or season for that friendship has run it's course and it's time to move on. Sucks, to be sure, but it's healthier to move on.
I've also learned to trust. My faith. Karma. That some how, God will provide. That getting a better night's sleep really IS possible through the wonders of chemistry. And that my tool, my WLS, is always there for me. It's really easy to slip back into old BAD habits, and not NEARLY as easy to "slip" back into my WLS relationship with food. But it IS do-able. Lots of people are getting back on track now, as fall creeps in and long pants that haven't been worn for several months have shrunk on their hangers. (How the devil does THAT happen???) I was actually pleasantly surprised to discover that even tho I've gained a few, I haven't gone up a size. My 14's still fit me, albeit with a bit more muffin top than I sported back in April... I'm back on the wagon, honoring my tool, and my commitment to my health.
Wow, can I ramble or WHAT???
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But Autumn? I really, REALLY LOVE it!!! Cooler temps (even tho the heat doesn't really bother me anymore), all the nasty skeeters dying an untimely death, hoodies, apples, bonfires and camping - YAY FALL!!! It's always been my favorite season - the weather we've had these past few days could just stay like this until early November as far as I'm concerned
There have been stresses, to be sure - a daughter with a loser pansy of a boyfriend, drama within a group of really dear friends, I guess life happens. People change, I change, situations change... Change really IS the only thing guaranteed besides death and taxes. We have to adapt. We have to choose how we want to react to it. I've learned a LOT about myself in this past year, with regard to what I am willing to tolerate. I learned that I have limits to my compassion, and that when a relationship brings more anxiety than joy, well, maybe the reason or season for that friendship has run it's course and it's time to move on. Sucks, to be sure, but it's healthier to move on.
I've also learned to trust. My faith. Karma. That some how, God will provide. That getting a better night's sleep really IS possible through the wonders of chemistry. And that my tool, my WLS, is always there for me. It's really easy to slip back into old BAD habits, and not NEARLY as easy to "slip" back into my WLS relationship with food. But it IS do-able. Lots of people are getting back on track now, as fall creeps in and long pants that haven't been worn for several months have shrunk on their hangers. (How the devil does THAT happen???) I was actually pleasantly surprised to discover that even tho I've gained a few, I haven't gone up a size. My 14's still fit me, albeit with a bit more muffin top than I sported back in April... I'm back on the wagon, honoring my tool, and my commitment to my health.
Wow, can I ramble or WHAT???
Minnesota State Fair time!!
Aug 27, 2010
You darn RIGHT I'm going! Last year I went just a couple weeks out from my ob/hernia surgery, and felt fine. Oh, sure, I got stuck on my beloved cheese curds, but I had eaten most of a pork chop an hour or so earlier. Stupid on my part. Still I had a GREAT TIME with my beloved friend, Barb!
Tomorrow, it's me & the family. We're meeting up with a couple other dear friends there later in the day. We're all really looking forward to it - checking out all the cool campers, the critters (LOVE ME SOME HORSIES!!), fun products & such in the grandstand and coliseum buildings, some rides, the Nitty Gritty Dirt Band concert, and of course, FOOD. I'm not afraid of you, State Fair food!
See, for me, it's really never been about the food. Cheese curds, yes. The one thing I HAVE to have EVERY YEAR. And once I discovered how awesome the pork chops are, well, those have been a must-have, too. The rest of it? Nothing really screams EAT ME. Pre-WLS, I think I was just afraid to be 'that fat lady' who was always shoveling something in her face, so I just didn't do it. Snow cones and beverages, yes. Junk? Not so much. Don't care for pronto pups OR corn dogs. I'll enjoy a Tiny Tim donut or two out of someone else's bag. I MIGHT try camel or gator, but there's really nothing else that I can't pass up, and I'm honestly happy about that!
I also enjoy cruising through the campers more now, 'cuz I FIT through the doors NP, and I don't fear tipping them over when I step inside! I hated the Giant Slide before - A) 'cuz of the ridiculous number of STAIRS it takes to get to the top, and B) because at my weight, I slammed into the chain-link fence at the bottom - too much momentum for mere astro-turf to bring me to a stop! Maybe I'll try that?
Anyway, fair food is too expensive to over-do it as well. So I'll go, enjoy the sights, the people-watching and all, and know that I'm not going to destroy my pouch with junk all day! YAY WLS!!!
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Tomorrow, it's me & the family. We're meeting up with a couple other dear friends there later in the day. We're all really looking forward to it - checking out all the cool campers, the critters (LOVE ME SOME HORSIES!!), fun products & such in the grandstand and coliseum buildings, some rides, the Nitty Gritty Dirt Band concert, and of course, FOOD. I'm not afraid of you, State Fair food!
See, for me, it's really never been about the food. Cheese curds, yes. The one thing I HAVE to have EVERY YEAR. And once I discovered how awesome the pork chops are, well, those have been a must-have, too. The rest of it? Nothing really screams EAT ME. Pre-WLS, I think I was just afraid to be 'that fat lady' who was always shoveling something in her face, so I just didn't do it. Snow cones and beverages, yes. Junk? Not so much. Don't care for pronto pups OR corn dogs. I'll enjoy a Tiny Tim donut or two out of someone else's bag. I MIGHT try camel or gator, but there's really nothing else that I can't pass up, and I'm honestly happy about that!
I also enjoy cruising through the campers more now, 'cuz I FIT through the doors NP, and I don't fear tipping them over when I step inside! I hated the Giant Slide before - A) 'cuz of the ridiculous number of STAIRS it takes to get to the top, and B) because at my weight, I slammed into the chain-link fence at the bottom - too much momentum for mere astro-turf to bring me to a stop! Maybe I'll try that?
Anyway, fair food is too expensive to over-do it as well. So I'll go, enjoy the sights, the people-watching and all, and know that I'm not going to destroy my pouch with junk all day! YAY WLS!!!
Time flies
Jul 13, 2010
I suppose, in my quest to post at least once each month, I should come up with something to share.
Kinda rough right now. Not so much my WLS, just life shyt. Several extremely precious relationships in my life are struggling. Long standing plans are in danger of radical changes. Finances, parenting, it just seems like there's a whole lot of stress in my life.
I feel very blessed to have this tool to prevent me from using food as a crutch, as an ally in my life struggles. Still not at "onederland", still not overly concerned if I never see it. My 14s are fitting fine - so I believe I have dropped a few, although I still have a hard time facing my scale. Old tapes playing in my head. It's okay, tho, last thing I personally need is to become a slave to a number. On a scale, anyway.
I don't post a great deal online these days - I check the MN forum daily, but if I don't feel inspired to share any particular thoughts, well, I don't feel obligated. There was a time when I felt the need to reply to EVERY. SINGLE. THREAD. I know a lot of people still feel that way, but I don't. I'm just not all that important - not here, anyway.
Wow, aren't I just a party on a stick?
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Kinda rough right now. Not so much my WLS, just life shyt. Several extremely precious relationships in my life are struggling. Long standing plans are in danger of radical changes. Finances, parenting, it just seems like there's a whole lot of stress in my life.
I feel very blessed to have this tool to prevent me from using food as a crutch, as an ally in my life struggles. Still not at "onederland", still not overly concerned if I never see it. My 14s are fitting fine - so I believe I have dropped a few, although I still have a hard time facing my scale. Old tapes playing in my head. It's okay, tho, last thing I personally need is to become a slave to a number. On a scale, anyway.
I don't post a great deal online these days - I check the MN forum daily, but if I don't feel inspired to share any particular thoughts, well, I don't feel obligated. There was a time when I felt the need to reply to EVERY. SINGLE. THREAD. I know a lot of people still feel that way, but I don't. I'm just not all that important - not here, anyway.
Wow, aren't I just a party on a stick?
My baby is 14 today!
Jun 10, 2010
Travis, that is. Good grief, is that even possible???
It feels so sweet to have his arms wrapped around me to hug me. He's still on the small side for his age (- hoping he'll have a major growth spurt this summer before he starts at the High School in September!) which makes it even sweeter that he CAN wrap his arms around me!! I love him so much...
Bailey, too. She is extremely difficult right now, but I have faith that we will get past all the teenage/hormone issues and have a much more positive relationship somewhere down the road. She's working just across the road from me, and called to see if we could have lunch together today. Of course we can! Of course, I'll buy - I'm just thrilled whenever she WANTS to spend time with me these days!!!
My weight? Well, I'd still love to see Onederland. Not sure I ever will, but I am determined to never allow myself to wig out over it - as long as I don't go up, I'm fine if I never go down any further. Hell, I swung my body up into a saddle - BY MYSELF, FROM THE GROUND, FIRST TIME EVER back on May 30th! God, was THAT sweet!!! Wish I could go riding regularly! For so long I just couldn't do that to some poor beast. Now? NO GUILT! GIDDYUP, HORSIE!!!
Yeah, I really have no driving message today. Just haven't posted for a while. I check in on OH every day, but don't feel compelled to speak up so much these days. I don't think I'll ever go away for good, I'm committed to keeping my WLS in front of my nose every day of my life. I don't get people who think they don't need to - at 3 years out, I know how EASY it is to let those nasty old habits sneak back in. My goal is to kick 'em in the arse whenever they rear their ugly heads!
Happy Birthday, Travis!!!
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It feels so sweet to have his arms wrapped around me to hug me. He's still on the small side for his age (- hoping he'll have a major growth spurt this summer before he starts at the High School in September!) which makes it even sweeter that he CAN wrap his arms around me!! I love him so much...
Bailey, too. She is extremely difficult right now, but I have faith that we will get past all the teenage/hormone issues and have a much more positive relationship somewhere down the road. She's working just across the road from me, and called to see if we could have lunch together today. Of course we can! Of course, I'll buy - I'm just thrilled whenever she WANTS to spend time with me these days!!!
My weight? Well, I'd still love to see Onederland. Not sure I ever will, but I am determined to never allow myself to wig out over it - as long as I don't go up, I'm fine if I never go down any further. Hell, I swung my body up into a saddle - BY MYSELF, FROM THE GROUND, FIRST TIME EVER back on May 30th! God, was THAT sweet!!! Wish I could go riding regularly! For so long I just couldn't do that to some poor beast. Now? NO GUILT! GIDDYUP, HORSIE!!!
Yeah, I really have no driving message today. Just haven't posted for a while. I check in on OH every day, but don't feel compelled to speak up so much these days. I don't think I'll ever go away for good, I'm committed to keeping my WLS in front of my nose every day of my life. I don't get people who think they don't need to - at 3 years out, I know how EASY it is to let those nasty old habits sneak back in. My goal is to kick 'em in the arse whenever they rear their ugly heads!
Happy Birthday, Travis!!!
3 years ago,
Apr 27, 2010
Dr. Jones saved my life.
That's no lie, nor an exaggeration. I was well on my way to killing myself with my weight. Diabetes, blood pressure, debilitating aches and pains... did I mention diabetes? Well, they're all gone today. (except for minor, but chronic, knee pain when I do a lot of walking. Gotta have something to bitch about, right??? 
)
At 3 years out, I can list a whole mess of improvements to my life, thanks to WLS. I'm off all my meds. My thighs divorced a long time ago, I no longer require seat belt extenders, have plenty of room in restaurant booths and movie theater seats, you name it. Buying clothes in NORMAL stores. No more sweating like a hog or getting winded at the THOUGHT of walking more than a few feet. I LIKE looking at my hands!
And sometimes, ONCE IN A WHILE, I catch dudes looking at me with appreciation, rather than disgust.
I'm maintaining a loss of about 165 pounds (depending on the day). I'd like to lose a few more, because I still weigh around 210-215. But at 5'11" with a bigger build, I don't even know if ONEDERLAND is realistic for me and my lead pipes. All I know is I will never lose respect for my tool, and if I never see a 1 at the front of my weight, I'm not going to wig out on myself. I'm so much healthier now than I ever was before!
3 years ago, being 3 years out from WLS seemed like an impossible fantasy. But here I am. I made a commitment to myself that if God saw fit to allow me to have this surgery, I would follow the rules as closely as I was humanly able. Vitamins, water, protein, no more carbonated drinks, support and follow-ups with my clinic... I'm no angel, I put things in my mouth that I really don't need or shouldn't have. (I still love Fritos, and Hot Tamales are pure evil, although it takes a very small quantity to satisfy those cravings these days.) But compared to before? I'm able to say that most days, I'm proud of myself. For behaving most of the time, and for looking and FEELING so much better!
Life is not perfect, stress still happens, and it rarely has anything to do with my WLS. I could have lost more weight if the lousy year I've had didn't cause me to do some stress eating, but I KNOW what I'm doing, and have found that I CAN rein it in and peel off whatever pounds might find their way back. I have this gift for the rest of my life, and I intend to do right by it.
So at the risk of sounding arrogant? YAY ME!!!! 
Coming up on 3 years post-WLS
Apr 08, 2010
And I've been experiencing my first real bout of weight GAIN. Yup, you read right, I've gained weight. 99.7% sure it's stress-induced grazing, so I need to nip that shit in the bud NOW.
I need to get on the scale more often. I'd sometimes go 2 months between weighing myself, which worked GREAT while I was in the "honeymoon" phase of WLS. But now, I need to get myself in the habit of stepping on that sucker probably once a week, just to keep myself accountable. A kick in the noggin to keep myself motivated to avoid evil things (anything is evil if it's not eaten at a meal, or protein-first).
It's okay, I can do this. I have my tool, I just have to work harder to help IT work for ME. And figure out some other way to deal with the stresses life seems to shovel my way.
We're getting a new puppy this weekend, so hopefully Hazel and the new pooch will motivate me to get out and WALK more often! Show off my beautiful beasties!!! And the dogs, too! (hehehe...)
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I need to get on the scale more often. I'd sometimes go 2 months between weighing myself, which worked GREAT while I was in the "honeymoon" phase of WLS. But now, I need to get myself in the habit of stepping on that sucker probably once a week, just to keep myself accountable. A kick in the noggin to keep myself motivated to avoid evil things (anything is evil if it's not eaten at a meal, or protein-first).
It's okay, I can do this. I have my tool, I just have to work harder to help IT work for ME. And figure out some other way to deal with the stresses life seems to shovel my way.
We're getting a new puppy this weekend, so hopefully Hazel and the new pooch will motivate me to get out and WALK more often! Show off my beautiful beasties!!! And the dogs, too! (hehehe...)
Just thinking "out loud"...
Mar 25, 2010
Been feeling pretty down in the dumps the past couple of days... I'm down one dear friend. I've never intentionally ended a friendship before, and I feel like I really didn't end this one, but because of changes I needed to make to preserve my OWN mental health, she more or less decided that we were over. All or nothing, black or white, best friends or former friends. I tried to present my concerns so that she'd understand my perspective, and I hoped that we could remain, at the very least, FRIENDLY, but it didn't end up that way.
I'm 48. I spent 45 of those years obese, therefore giving of myself and taking care of everyone BUT me. Didn't we all do that? Isn't that how we fought for acceptance in a world obsessed with body image? I'm plumb out of gas for taking care of and protecting people who shouldn't be looking to me for that in the first place. I'm tired of defending friendships that others don't understand or are jealous of.
I had WLS to get healthy, to enjoy life more, to live longer so I can be around for my kids, and if God is willing someday, my grandkids. But I've also come to experience the unpleasantness where taking care of me can cause others to see me as selfish, and I've never worn that label before. I don't like it.
But I need it. If removing people and things that cause me anxiety and anguish is selfish, then I guess I'm selfish. But that's better than having the life sucked out of me.
I will get past this, with the help of my loved ones - family and friends who support and love me without constantly challenging my devotion to THEM. What some people don't understand is that unconditional love like that makes the person receiving it MORE devoted.
Love my FCB's
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I'm 48. I spent 45 of those years obese, therefore giving of myself and taking care of everyone BUT me. Didn't we all do that? Isn't that how we fought for acceptance in a world obsessed with body image? I'm plumb out of gas for taking care of and protecting people who shouldn't be looking to me for that in the first place. I'm tired of defending friendships that others don't understand or are jealous of.
I had WLS to get healthy, to enjoy life more, to live longer so I can be around for my kids, and if God is willing someday, my grandkids. But I've also come to experience the unpleasantness where taking care of me can cause others to see me as selfish, and I've never worn that label before. I don't like it.
But I need it. If removing people and things that cause me anxiety and anguish is selfish, then I guess I'm selfish. But that's better than having the life sucked out of me.
I will get past this, with the help of my loved ones - family and friends who support and love me without constantly challenging my devotion to THEM. What some people don't understand is that unconditional love like that makes the person receiving it MORE devoted.
Love my FCB's
Support
Mar 05, 2010
I have noticed, over the past 3 years, how people come and go. Here on OH, at PNC support groups, and at coffee. Everyone is all gung-ho at the beginning, looking to pick brains for advice, support, encouragement, and information. Can't get enough support!!!
Eventually, a lot of the people I've met kind of fade away - stop posting, stop attending support, stop coming to coffee... and it seems that in many cases, you just never hear from them again, unless they find themselves struggling - gaining weight, not following rules, discovering that maintaining is WAY more difficult than losing.
Some come back, because they don't want to forfeit what they've gained from WLS. They seek support, and share their struggles - and it's a GOOD thing! It's good for THEM, it's good for EVERYONE to learn about their struggles - try to figure how to prevent them, and to support this new 'oldie' in his or her battle to get back on track.
My point? Don't put all your WLS eggs in one basket. If you're reading this and participating here, EXCELLENT! But don't rely on OH alone. Find a formal support group meeting to attend, and ATTEND IT. REGULARLY. Go to a coffee get-together, and get to know some people - MAKE FRIENDS! You'll never find a less judgemental, wonderful community of like-minded people ANYWHERE!
Then when you DO struggle, whether it's with your WLS, or something of a more personal nature, you will find yourself surrounded with people who genuinely CARE about you, and WANT to be your shoulder to lean on. Who help you get through whatever it is that you're facing.
So if you don't mind, I just want to give a shout out to MY peeps. You know who you are. I've never been wanting for friends in my life, but I've NEVER had BETTER friends. I thank GOD for blessing me so.
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Eventually, a lot of the people I've met kind of fade away - stop posting, stop attending support, stop coming to coffee... and it seems that in many cases, you just never hear from them again, unless they find themselves struggling - gaining weight, not following rules, discovering that maintaining is WAY more difficult than losing.
Some come back, because they don't want to forfeit what they've gained from WLS. They seek support, and share their struggles - and it's a GOOD thing! It's good for THEM, it's good for EVERYONE to learn about their struggles - try to figure how to prevent them, and to support this new 'oldie' in his or her battle to get back on track.
My point? Don't put all your WLS eggs in one basket. If you're reading this and participating here, EXCELLENT! But don't rely on OH alone. Find a formal support group meeting to attend, and ATTEND IT. REGULARLY. Go to a coffee get-together, and get to know some people - MAKE FRIENDS! You'll never find a less judgemental, wonderful community of like-minded people ANYWHERE!
Then when you DO struggle, whether it's with your WLS, or something of a more personal nature, you will find yourself surrounded with people who genuinely CARE about you, and WANT to be your shoulder to lean on. Who help you get through whatever it is that you're facing.
So if you don't mind, I just want to give a shout out to MY peeps. You know who you are. I've never been wanting for friends in my life, but I've NEVER had BETTER friends. I thank GOD for blessing me so.
weekend fun
Jan 25, 2010
Because we've had so much stress in our lives lately, my family decided to get away for the weekend - just the 4 of us - and enjoy a hotel with a water park.
I've been to plenty of water parks in my life, from the cheesiest little hotel pool with a slide, to the Kalahari and Wilderness resorts in the Wisconsin Dells. I've always been something of a fish, and never did let my bulk stop me from putting on a swimsuit and enjoying the water.
Now? I'm more self-conscious than ever about my scrotum skin, so I wear swim shorts over my one-piece suit. It's surprising how many women/girls do this, even those without any apparent issues to hide!
But I DO enjoy myself! The slides, the great big hot tubs, and especially, the Lazy Rivers! Yup, if'n I ever win the lottery, I WILL have a lazy river on my property. The best thing about them these days is my ass actually fits down inside the tubes! I used to have to do the balancing act across the top, probably laying on my stomach, because I couldn't get one damn CHEEK down in the middle!
Nowadays, I can darn near fold myself in half and slip through the middle of a tube! And when my husband and I share a double, HIS side sags, and I'M up in the air!!! It's a good thing, to be able to enjoy the water without feeling like the beached whale everyone is looking at
It was a much-needed get away. Didn't make the best food choices, but ya know what? I'm always free to start fresh. Every day, for the rest of my life. THAT is a blessing, too.
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I've been to plenty of water parks in my life, from the cheesiest little hotel pool with a slide, to the Kalahari and Wilderness resorts in the Wisconsin Dells. I've always been something of a fish, and never did let my bulk stop me from putting on a swimsuit and enjoying the water.
Now? I'm more self-conscious than ever about my scrotum skin, so I wear swim shorts over my one-piece suit. It's surprising how many women/girls do this, even those without any apparent issues to hide!
But I DO enjoy myself! The slides, the great big hot tubs, and especially, the Lazy Rivers! Yup, if'n I ever win the lottery, I WILL have a lazy river on my property. The best thing about them these days is my ass actually fits down inside the tubes! I used to have to do the balancing act across the top, probably laying on my stomach, because I couldn't get one damn CHEEK down in the middle!
Nowadays, I can darn near fold myself in half and slip through the middle of a tube! And when my husband and I share a double, HIS side sags, and I'M up in the air!!! It's a good thing, to be able to enjoy the water without feeling like the beached whale everyone is looking at
It was a much-needed get away. Didn't make the best food choices, but ya know what? I'm always free to start fresh. Every day, for the rest of my life. THAT is a blessing, too.
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Maple Grove, MN
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26.5
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04/27/2007
Surgery Date
Jan 12, 2007
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