I totally understand.

I wasn't always overweight/obese, so I guess the hope is that in addition to losing the weight and getting healthy - you can go back to how you looked before in better clothes or a suit and somewhat have a comeback when it comes to your confidence and appearance.

Ideally you don't want to thin now, but bald.

Laparoscopy is an amazing component in surgery recovery. For me the pain was negligible and i stopped taking the pain pills after my first night home. You are healing and on reduced calories so definitely more tired than usual. Once I stopped the pain meds my only restrictions were restrictions around what weight I could carry and the food plan. Every plan seems to be different on the pre-post op plans so it's important to follow YOUR program until you are through the healing stages.

Hair loss is common after major surgery. Both my doctor and my hairdresser said it's just something you have to get through and both said there's really no supplement or diet that changes it but there are people here that swear by supplements so that's an area to see what people experienced and try what might work for you. My hair loss started about month 4 post op last about 6-8 months before it slowed down. I have a lot of hair (like it's hard to get a band sound my ponytail twice lot of hair) and at the worst point, I could get it around 3 times easily and 4 with effort). It did stop right when I was starting so wonder if it ever would.

yep, loose skin is a real thing. I'd rather have my dragon wings, (because they are bigger than any darn bat I've ever seen), deflated boobs and other loose skin than the joint pain, health complications and likely shortened lifespan i as headed for. There are quite a few people that have had plastic surgery, quite a few that haven't had it but want it and quite a few that re not considering it for many different reasons. I am not considering it because I don't want to have to deal with surgery and recovery for that but if it's something that you would want to look into, there are definitely options post surgery!

good luck to you. This general page isn't super active but the RNY sub forum is and it's open to everyone - RNY, VSG, DS, come visit there! I think some of the other forums are intermittently active as well.

I understand your concerns. You're about to undergo a life changing process. It's normal to worry about the unknown.

May I make a suggestion? Is there a therapist that you could talk specializing in the area of wls and obesity? You want piece of mind.

I'm one of the rare people that did have complications from my rny, (some stitching broke, led to pancreatitis, and somehow got a fungal infection in the lungs). Would I do it again? In a heartbeat! It made me realize how fragile life is. And how strong my will to live was.

Hey Kathleen,

Thanks for responding.

I don't really lack a support system per se, but my brain is just wired a certain way where I will just focus on my worries anyway and then after the fact if everything goes well - then I will say that I worried for nothing and that I am glad I did it.

I just wanted to get some more feedback from people here who have actually gone through it vs. people trying to make me feel better who haven't.

I am sorry to hear about your complications. Was it due to mistakes made by the surgeon or just a rare occurrence that can't really be blamed on anyone?'

What was your experience with weight loss, hanging skin and hair loss beyond the complications?

Thanks again.

As long as you trust your surgeon's skills, his personality shouldn't matter unless he is abusive or harassing. It's sucks to not feel her personably cares about you but I'd rather have a surgeon that's a tool but good at what he does than one I'd like to chat with that is bad at surgery. Is there anyone else in his practice or your program that you can connect with, that you would feel comfortable taking your questions to?

I think it's not unusual to be anxious about surgery, but to put that 1 in 1,000 perspective that's .10%; hip replacement surgery has a mortality rate about 3 times higher and you rarely hear of anyone dying from that. Complications can absolutely happen in anything but they are rare. Understand your risks, take care of what you can before hand and then just focus on your program and the next steps! Hopefully you will be amazed at how quickly you are on the other side of things!

Try:

Hard boiled eggs

Celery with laughing cow cheese

Triple Zero Oikos yogurt

Costoc Protein bars

Sweet small peppers and dip ( light sour cream and onion soup mix)

Turkey sausage ( Butter Ball)

Turkey with Chesse in a Zero Carb taco size wrap, put a pickle in the middle