I'm sorry for your loss. I had to be unfilled after my daughter was born and was doing great before then. I have the same amount of fluid in my band right now that I had previously and the band is definately not the same. The mornings are super tight and I even have to be careful about fluids then in the evenings it's like I'm unfilled again. It's crazy. I never had that issue before, it was at a perfect spot and I didn't have the fluctuations in tightness like I do now. I'm hoping that I can get it under control, and if not, at least get myself under control.