Brenda C.
What Happens When The Weight Is Gone???
Mar 08, 2012
Hey there folks, I have been chatting with a friend here on OH, and she started telling me about her friend, Sarah - the winner of the Weight Loss Surgery Foundation Grant for a full body lift. For so many, getting reconstructive surgery is just a dream, but if you are willing to work for it - it can become a reality (I just got a panniculectomy). Each year, another person will be chosen to receive this grant, along with a grant for Bariatric Surgery -- so head over to the site, check them out, and support them - I am a Member! http://wlsfa.org/
Anyhow, those of you on Facebook can look up Sarahwillbeskinny, as she is SHARING her story. I saw the preview, and understood her tears, reconstructive surgery is a scary thing to face. She will be on the TLC Channel on Monday, March 12th - I'll be watching, will you?
After you watch her, maybe you will start working on your grant proposal??? Here is the link, but 2012 has closed, you will be applying for 2013... http://wlsfa.org/looking-for-help/how-to-apply-for-a-grant/
I have posted a few photos - some are marked in my Nude Album - for that, just email me, I'll share my super secret password -- which isn't as secret as you would think. I still need to get some more nudes done, now that I am a week out. I am puffy, but DAMN, I feel great!!! For those asking about pain - after day 3 or 4 it no longer was an issue. Today, all I have had was Tylenol, but may take some oxycodone before I head downstairs. I have been well behaved - for me - and trying to NOT move around too much, twist, or cause any issues with my incision. I am in this to win this!!! I see my surgeon on March 14, and will have two support group meetings to attend - SURPRISE!!! Funny thing, I had just attended the support group meeting at Virginia Mason and announced I was just a month away from surgery -- another SURPRISE! March 28th is the next group meeting and will be the day before I would have been going in for surgery...
Not having my belly slapping my thighs as I walk has taken some getting used to. It feels odd having a lap, which some folks take for granted, but being morbidly obese doesn't happen to a lot of folks. I joke about "vanity weight" being anything under 30 pounds, come on folks, I had THREE HUNDRED POUNDS to lose. The cool thing when I type that number out, hee hee, I am over half the way there!!! My weight loss is One Hundred and Seventy-Seven POUNDS. It didn't happen quick, but it may seem that way to folks who haven't spent the last four years trying to get to this point. Yup, four long years, 15 months since I had gastric bypass, but I haven't wasted a moment of my time. When folks get upset about waiting a couple of months, I tell them, "go read my blog..."
I am putting the cart before the horse, but I hope, hope, hope for at least two more reconstructive procedures in the year to come. Well, after I have worked as hard as Sarah has!!! I am still another hundred pounds away (my guess) from trying to secure more work. My legs and my midsection are the areas I know need help, but at this point, I am tickled pink to see my "cooter" and her two friends, my thighs! My main focus at the moment, be careful & not gain weight in the 6 - 8 weeks I am not allowed to exercise, sigh...
Okay, here is another fun idea!!! What do you call you "feminine lady parts?" I think Cooter is the forerunner for my Lovely Lady Garden! My ex husband gave her a name, but that was then, he ain't getting to know the new & improved Cooter! Box, Cockpit, Taco - Taco with Cheese if you have an infection... Vagina, Cooch, Twat Waffle, BP (when you are on your period), or my favorite - Crime Scene in my Panties... Snasty, Snatch, Red Snapper, what do you call "her"??? I also had to remove my VaJazzles before surgery, I wonder if it was in my file, as they kept stressing ALL YOUR JEWLERY... Sheesh! Have fun with this little assignment, I'm happy to share all your comments!
Stay positive!
Brenda : )~
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Anyhow, those of you on Facebook can look up Sarahwillbeskinny, as she is SHARING her story. I saw the preview, and understood her tears, reconstructive surgery is a scary thing to face. She will be on the TLC Channel on Monday, March 12th - I'll be watching, will you?
After you watch her, maybe you will start working on your grant proposal??? Here is the link, but 2012 has closed, you will be applying for 2013... http://wlsfa.org/looking-for-help/how-to-apply-for-a-grant/
I have posted a few photos - some are marked in my Nude Album - for that, just email me, I'll share my super secret password -- which isn't as secret as you would think. I still need to get some more nudes done, now that I am a week out. I am puffy, but DAMN, I feel great!!! For those asking about pain - after day 3 or 4 it no longer was an issue. Today, all I have had was Tylenol, but may take some oxycodone before I head downstairs. I have been well behaved - for me - and trying to NOT move around too much, twist, or cause any issues with my incision. I am in this to win this!!! I see my surgeon on March 14, and will have two support group meetings to attend - SURPRISE!!! Funny thing, I had just attended the support group meeting at Virginia Mason and announced I was just a month away from surgery -- another SURPRISE! March 28th is the next group meeting and will be the day before I would have been going in for surgery...
Not having my belly slapping my thighs as I walk has taken some getting used to. It feels odd having a lap, which some folks take for granted, but being morbidly obese doesn't happen to a lot of folks. I joke about "vanity weight" being anything under 30 pounds, come on folks, I had THREE HUNDRED POUNDS to lose. The cool thing when I type that number out, hee hee, I am over half the way there!!! My weight loss is One Hundred and Seventy-Seven POUNDS. It didn't happen quick, but it may seem that way to folks who haven't spent the last four years trying to get to this point. Yup, four long years, 15 months since I had gastric bypass, but I haven't wasted a moment of my time. When folks get upset about waiting a couple of months, I tell them, "go read my blog..."
I am putting the cart before the horse, but I hope, hope, hope for at least two more reconstructive procedures in the year to come. Well, after I have worked as hard as Sarah has!!! I am still another hundred pounds away (my guess) from trying to secure more work. My legs and my midsection are the areas I know need help, but at this point, I am tickled pink to see my "cooter" and her two friends, my thighs! My main focus at the moment, be careful & not gain weight in the 6 - 8 weeks I am not allowed to exercise, sigh...
Okay, here is another fun idea!!! What do you call you "feminine lady parts?" I think Cooter is the forerunner for my Lovely Lady Garden! My ex husband gave her a name, but that was then, he ain't getting to know the new & improved Cooter! Box, Cockpit, Taco - Taco with Cheese if you have an infection... Vagina, Cooch, Twat Waffle, BP (when you are on your period), or my favorite - Crime Scene in my Panties... Snasty, Snatch, Red Snapper, what do you call "her"??? I also had to remove my VaJazzles before surgery, I wonder if it was in my file, as they kept stressing ALL YOUR JEWLERY... Sheesh! Have fun with this little assignment, I'm happy to share all your comments!
Stay positive!
Brenda : )~
Less than a Week, I feel GREAT!
Mar 05, 2012
Why? I have so much energy, physical and emotional, but I have to keep my cool and just relax... sigh. I knew when I was getting ready for my panniculectomy I would have to change a lot of my daily life around, just to recuperate the correct way - without complications. Believe it or not, I actually had to teach myself how to sleep on my back, and last night was the first time I caught myself trying to roll over to one side... Brenda, no! no! no! Best thing I can do is listen to my little voice - and NOT argue with me.
People asked me to tell the real deal - how the pain goes, the raw and not so raw moments, so let's start with pain & pain management. I am grinning a little, all alone in my bed, the cat finally decided to find something to do other than vomit on my bedspread... Obviously, I must have had a dose of oxycodone & two Tylenol, I am typing way too fast, and I am getting a little disjointed in my thought process. The pain really isn't bad. The first three days, I wasn't a happy camper, even checking the clock to see when the next four hours had passed and I would be allowed more pain meds. I am now on day six, and frankly, the dose is now to it's minimum, and I can actually forget the four hour rule before I notice "discomfort". I said that ridiculous word, but it is true, it is merely discomfort at this time. I just re-worked my cincher - adding some Velcro inside to make it a one woman job to put back on. I actually have corsets that are easier to get into. That's all right, give me some sewing tools, a little spatial reasoning (a big word that means I can see things before they are finished), and I now have a one woman body wrap that looks like a weird elastic sari! Shaking my head, I blame the meds. Hmmm, maybe my cincher needs more color?
I actually have been downstairs cooking, and even in my office one flight below that -- so for those keeping score, I am able to climb multiple flights of stairs, with ease. Just don't tell my family I was trying to be efficient & printing up labels, and even walking across the street to put mail out for my mail carrier - I am so naughty! Showering has actually become an interesting ritual for me. I wear a belt that holds my two drainage bulbs -- I look in the mirror seeing a heavy Laura Croft, and I smile! I asked the nurses at the hospital if I could possible have a second belt - one for showering. Stripping out of my cincher, losing all clothing, yet strapping on my "shower" belt with drainage bulbs is kind of funny. I guess I should not catch a glimpse before entering the shower - but I cannot help it! All I need is the braid.
Since I have not shared photos yet - here is the mental image: From my knees up to my Hoo-ha, I have loose skin. My Lovely Cooter is still more swollen on the right, so sadly my Private Garden looks lopsided. I am still wondering what it will look like when the pubic hair grows back in - I think too much! Then I have this ridge, think of Laura Croft trying to scale Mount Brenda, as she tosses her grenade drainage bulbs over the ledge... Then I catch a glimpse of my butt, and give it an approving nod, "Not bad..." The warm water feels amazing on my incision, and I am VERY gentle in cleaning the area. I am very swollen, and it almost feels numb instead of painful, I hope that is all right. So, my daily activities are becoming easier, and as you can read, I am definitely not upset with the whole process. For those of us who have lived a long time - maybe even as far as we can remember - having a pannus, this is still shocking to me - I have THIGHS!
I still haven't started pulling out jeans for the "what size will I be" moment, but it is driving me wonky having to wait. I cannot rush the recovery process, no matter how excited I may be, time is the answer. Here is another raw emotion that I wondered before surgery: Will the swelling ever really go down? Will my body look normal, or lumpy? What if I really didn't lose as much inches as I hoped for? To answer these bothersome and negative thoughts, I say: We will see, when we see.
Sure, I was hoping that I would be able to pull on a size 22 jean instead of the 28's I was wearing the day before surgery, but if I can't, it is still just a matter of time. Well, time & work! I already know, even with the swelling, I have lost 5 inches off my hips. Numbers on a scale or even a tape measure do NOT show who I am - that is up to my actions. So, I will be patient, and wait and see.
Oh, and another bothersome problem I am having: My Diet. I am trying to keep my protein up high, stay away from goodies (I had a couple Girl Scout Cookies, but stopped after enjoying 2), while wondering how will I burn my calories without exercise? Argh! I am keeping my food journal up to date, but today I noticed that I entered my weight, and it had not changed from two days ago. As I type this, I am indulging on cabbage, cauliflower, broccoli, carrots and balsamic vinegar -- I get crunchies and explosive flavor with little calories. It is tough to sit around your entire day, not being allowed to exercise, and you still have to eat. Life isn't fair, but I am not ready to throw in the towel. For those of you worrying about the gas these veggies can cause - I am actually trying to make my poor bowels happier. I FINALLY had relief in the bathroom today, and I admittedly almost grabbed my scale. Yet another issue to deal with while recuperating & taking oxycodone...
For those who have been cheering me on - THANK YOU! My family & work has been GREAT! The folks at the hospital are my HEROES - especially my surgeon, Dr Keith Paige! My friends have been so supportive, I am a lucky woman! My cats - I am sure they mean well, but maybe a little less company, especially when they have a hairball. It does take some courage to admit you need help, and it isn't easy for me to accept help, so this whole process is a good learning experience for me. I will stay less active, physically. Try hard to catch up on all my correspondence - I swear! Try not to look in the mirror too long, and remember to always be a kind person! Here I sit, staying positive from my bed -- thank you for the support!!!
Brenda : )~
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People asked me to tell the real deal - how the pain goes, the raw and not so raw moments, so let's start with pain & pain management. I am grinning a little, all alone in my bed, the cat finally decided to find something to do other than vomit on my bedspread... Obviously, I must have had a dose of oxycodone & two Tylenol, I am typing way too fast, and I am getting a little disjointed in my thought process. The pain really isn't bad. The first three days, I wasn't a happy camper, even checking the clock to see when the next four hours had passed and I would be allowed more pain meds. I am now on day six, and frankly, the dose is now to it's minimum, and I can actually forget the four hour rule before I notice "discomfort". I said that ridiculous word, but it is true, it is merely discomfort at this time. I just re-worked my cincher - adding some Velcro inside to make it a one woman job to put back on. I actually have corsets that are easier to get into. That's all right, give me some sewing tools, a little spatial reasoning (a big word that means I can see things before they are finished), and I now have a one woman body wrap that looks like a weird elastic sari! Shaking my head, I blame the meds. Hmmm, maybe my cincher needs more color?
I actually have been downstairs cooking, and even in my office one flight below that -- so for those keeping score, I am able to climb multiple flights of stairs, with ease. Just don't tell my family I was trying to be efficient & printing up labels, and even walking across the street to put mail out for my mail carrier - I am so naughty! Showering has actually become an interesting ritual for me. I wear a belt that holds my two drainage bulbs -- I look in the mirror seeing a heavy Laura Croft, and I smile! I asked the nurses at the hospital if I could possible have a second belt - one for showering. Stripping out of my cincher, losing all clothing, yet strapping on my "shower" belt with drainage bulbs is kind of funny. I guess I should not catch a glimpse before entering the shower - but I cannot help it! All I need is the braid.
Since I have not shared photos yet - here is the mental image: From my knees up to my Hoo-ha, I have loose skin. My Lovely Cooter is still more swollen on the right, so sadly my Private Garden looks lopsided. I am still wondering what it will look like when the pubic hair grows back in - I think too much! Then I have this ridge, think of Laura Croft trying to scale Mount Brenda, as she tosses her grenade drainage bulbs over the ledge... Then I catch a glimpse of my butt, and give it an approving nod, "Not bad..." The warm water feels amazing on my incision, and I am VERY gentle in cleaning the area. I am very swollen, and it almost feels numb instead of painful, I hope that is all right. So, my daily activities are becoming easier, and as you can read, I am definitely not upset with the whole process. For those of us who have lived a long time - maybe even as far as we can remember - having a pannus, this is still shocking to me - I have THIGHS!
I still haven't started pulling out jeans for the "what size will I be" moment, but it is driving me wonky having to wait. I cannot rush the recovery process, no matter how excited I may be, time is the answer. Here is another raw emotion that I wondered before surgery: Will the swelling ever really go down? Will my body look normal, or lumpy? What if I really didn't lose as much inches as I hoped for? To answer these bothersome and negative thoughts, I say: We will see, when we see.
Sure, I was hoping that I would be able to pull on a size 22 jean instead of the 28's I was wearing the day before surgery, but if I can't, it is still just a matter of time. Well, time & work! I already know, even with the swelling, I have lost 5 inches off my hips. Numbers on a scale or even a tape measure do NOT show who I am - that is up to my actions. So, I will be patient, and wait and see.
Oh, and another bothersome problem I am having: My Diet. I am trying to keep my protein up high, stay away from goodies (I had a couple Girl Scout Cookies, but stopped after enjoying 2), while wondering how will I burn my calories without exercise? Argh! I am keeping my food journal up to date, but today I noticed that I entered my weight, and it had not changed from two days ago. As I type this, I am indulging on cabbage, cauliflower, broccoli, carrots and balsamic vinegar -- I get crunchies and explosive flavor with little calories. It is tough to sit around your entire day, not being allowed to exercise, and you still have to eat. Life isn't fair, but I am not ready to throw in the towel. For those of you worrying about the gas these veggies can cause - I am actually trying to make my poor bowels happier. I FINALLY had relief in the bathroom today, and I admittedly almost grabbed my scale. Yet another issue to deal with while recuperating & taking oxycodone...
For those who have been cheering me on - THANK YOU! My family & work has been GREAT! The folks at the hospital are my HEROES - especially my surgeon, Dr Keith Paige! My friends have been so supportive, I am a lucky woman! My cats - I am sure they mean well, but maybe a little less company, especially when they have a hairball. It does take some courage to admit you need help, and it isn't easy for me to accept help, so this whole process is a good learning experience for me. I will stay less active, physically. Try hard to catch up on all my correspondence - I swear! Try not to look in the mirror too long, and remember to always be a kind person! Here I sit, staying positive from my bed -- thank you for the support!!!
Brenda : )~
Home & Recovering, THANKS For the Support!
Mar 04, 2012
Hey there! Long time no chat?! I am home, and finally allowed to have my laptop, so I can share what all has been happening...
Anyone who knows me, knows I have to be forced to take it easy, and I have been "supervised" since I got home Friday afternoon. It's like my family and friends don't trust me, this is where you would hear me snort as I laugh at that last comment! Anyhow, I am doing great, in my opinion! I am taking oxycodone and Tylenol for pain, and taking care of my own personal hygiene, which includes stripping (or milking) my drains. Yup, other than the fact I am not able to stand more than ten minutes at a time - I start to swell - which is NOT comfortable, I think I am getting around - my home - pretty well. I haven't left the house since Friday, so I haven't a clue what my first field trip may be... Sadly, I am accepting the kindness of my family - cooking for me, and I did try to sneak in a load of laundry - I did get a "talking to" for that... "You are NOT supposed to lift the laundry basket, and you better not tell me you BENT DOWN to get the clothes..." Okay, okay, I'll stop helping, sheesh!
The pain at first was definitely something less than enjoyable. Yeah, I am not one of those whip me, beat me, kind of women, go figure?! I am now on day five (I think) post op, and frankly, other than the swelling, it really isn't too bad. I am no longer taking 10 - 15 mg of Oxycodone every four hours, I am instead taking just 5 mg. Which, to those around me is good, Oxycodone makes me wired like a caffeinated squirrel! I am able to shower by myself, and I take it very slowly. My body cincher - or bindings - is easier for me to put on, and I can do it by myself, finally! Before it was a three person job (two nurses & me). The getting my panties & shorts to work alongside the drain tubes is interesting, but I am getting the hang of it. Last night at 2 in the morning, I realized I made a crucial mistake, my panties UNDER the cincher, so I had to do a modified pee-pee dance. Lesson learned: Gauze between cincher & incision, then the drain tubes come from under cincher at the bottom, then the panties - feeding the tubes through the legs, and I forgot the drain belt, which goes on over the cincher and under my shorts!
I am REALLY swollen, but a quick wrap of my measuring tape over my hips shows 5 inches off, so far! Heck, I am already pretty excited, but know it will be more once the swelling is done. I have to drain my two drain tubes - one on each hip - a few times day, and I even do them at night. With all this fluid retention, I am forced to do something that is rare for me - bathroom trips at night! My nickname is "The Camel," as I can make it through the night - every night - without trips to the bathroom. I figure it was from my childhood training -- youngest in the family, and my parents didn't like to stop very often on road trips... All that training is out the window! I am not having a blowout with this incision!!! So, I am a little groggy, but have no problem trying to roll off my bed, get my feet under me, and stagger to the bathroom two or three times a night.
The photos will be added - but I still need some of me standing. I promise to take LOTS, so I will share from before, immediately after, and days, weeks, then month or more out. From my little scars from previous procedures, I am hoping my scars will be faint. I have such pale skin, and my stretch marks aren't dark at all. I am for sure back on all my vitamins & supplements, but NOT allowed to use any creams on the incision -- it is glued with something similar to Super Glue, and Neosporin actually can cause the "glue" to melt away. I saw some of my stitches last night on my right hip, so I will behave & allow my body to heal. This is where I say that I will fight myself to take things slowly, even if it drives me wonky!
One of the surgeons - I don't know if he is an Intern, or the exact term - spoke with me before I was discharged -- they should be some photos of my flesh after it was removed -- guess who will be asking for copies? If I do get them, i will be happy to share them. I am surprised I forgot to ask in the first place, sigh. My surgeon, Dr Keith Paige is not only a FABULOUS surgeon, he has an unbelievably huge heart. He actually talked to me about my wanting anything from him before surgery, I asked, "Could you send my primary doctor a note, she doesn't know I got moved up a month..." He actually told me he would - and DID - call her! I really owe Dr Paige a token of my gratitude, now to just think, what??? My primary doctor LOVES a brand of tea I turned her onto, so when I am in Hawaii, I always get her a couple boxes of pineapple tea (HiTea.com - fabulous stuff!). I will figure something out, I really am so overjoyed with what he has given me!!!
Seeing my thighs is AMAZING. It is funny the things we take for granted. Anyhow - THANK YOU for all the well wishers who have supported me!!! Staying positive will help my recovery, and frankly makes folks enjoy seeing me when I am not feeling my best -- so STAY POSITIVE!
I have one swimsuit going out, anyone else interested in any of the swimsuits in my album - please mark the the photo & send me a private message -- I will be able to slowly get the swimsuits out to new homes! Thanks for the donated suits, and for those receiving them - swim & enjoy the suits in GOOD HEALTH!
Brenda : )~
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Anyone who knows me, knows I have to be forced to take it easy, and I have been "supervised" since I got home Friday afternoon. It's like my family and friends don't trust me, this is where you would hear me snort as I laugh at that last comment! Anyhow, I am doing great, in my opinion! I am taking oxycodone and Tylenol for pain, and taking care of my own personal hygiene, which includes stripping (or milking) my drains. Yup, other than the fact I am not able to stand more than ten minutes at a time - I start to swell - which is NOT comfortable, I think I am getting around - my home - pretty well. I haven't left the house since Friday, so I haven't a clue what my first field trip may be... Sadly, I am accepting the kindness of my family - cooking for me, and I did try to sneak in a load of laundry - I did get a "talking to" for that... "You are NOT supposed to lift the laundry basket, and you better not tell me you BENT DOWN to get the clothes..." Okay, okay, I'll stop helping, sheesh!
The pain at first was definitely something less than enjoyable. Yeah, I am not one of those whip me, beat me, kind of women, go figure?! I am now on day five (I think) post op, and frankly, other than the swelling, it really isn't too bad. I am no longer taking 10 - 15 mg of Oxycodone every four hours, I am instead taking just 5 mg. Which, to those around me is good, Oxycodone makes me wired like a caffeinated squirrel! I am able to shower by myself, and I take it very slowly. My body cincher - or bindings - is easier for me to put on, and I can do it by myself, finally! Before it was a three person job (two nurses & me). The getting my panties & shorts to work alongside the drain tubes is interesting, but I am getting the hang of it. Last night at 2 in the morning, I realized I made a crucial mistake, my panties UNDER the cincher, so I had to do a modified pee-pee dance. Lesson learned: Gauze between cincher & incision, then the drain tubes come from under cincher at the bottom, then the panties - feeding the tubes through the legs, and I forgot the drain belt, which goes on over the cincher and under my shorts!
I am REALLY swollen, but a quick wrap of my measuring tape over my hips shows 5 inches off, so far! Heck, I am already pretty excited, but know it will be more once the swelling is done. I have to drain my two drain tubes - one on each hip - a few times day, and I even do them at night. With all this fluid retention, I am forced to do something that is rare for me - bathroom trips at night! My nickname is "The Camel," as I can make it through the night - every night - without trips to the bathroom. I figure it was from my childhood training -- youngest in the family, and my parents didn't like to stop very often on road trips... All that training is out the window! I am not having a blowout with this incision!!! So, I am a little groggy, but have no problem trying to roll off my bed, get my feet under me, and stagger to the bathroom two or three times a night.
The photos will be added - but I still need some of me standing. I promise to take LOTS, so I will share from before, immediately after, and days, weeks, then month or more out. From my little scars from previous procedures, I am hoping my scars will be faint. I have such pale skin, and my stretch marks aren't dark at all. I am for sure back on all my vitamins & supplements, but NOT allowed to use any creams on the incision -- it is glued with something similar to Super Glue, and Neosporin actually can cause the "glue" to melt away. I saw some of my stitches last night on my right hip, so I will behave & allow my body to heal. This is where I say that I will fight myself to take things slowly, even if it drives me wonky!
One of the surgeons - I don't know if he is an Intern, or the exact term - spoke with me before I was discharged -- they should be some photos of my flesh after it was removed -- guess who will be asking for copies? If I do get them, i will be happy to share them. I am surprised I forgot to ask in the first place, sigh. My surgeon, Dr Keith Paige is not only a FABULOUS surgeon, he has an unbelievably huge heart. He actually talked to me about my wanting anything from him before surgery, I asked, "Could you send my primary doctor a note, she doesn't know I got moved up a month..." He actually told me he would - and DID - call her! I really owe Dr Paige a token of my gratitude, now to just think, what??? My primary doctor LOVES a brand of tea I turned her onto, so when I am in Hawaii, I always get her a couple boxes of pineapple tea (HiTea.com - fabulous stuff!). I will figure something out, I really am so overjoyed with what he has given me!!!
Seeing my thighs is AMAZING. It is funny the things we take for granted. Anyhow - THANK YOU for all the well wishers who have supported me!!! Staying positive will help my recovery, and frankly makes folks enjoy seeing me when I am not feeling my best -- so STAY POSITIVE!
I have one swimsuit going out, anyone else interested in any of the swimsuits in my album - please mark the the photo & send me a private message -- I will be able to slowly get the swimsuits out to new homes! Thanks for the donated suits, and for those receiving them - swim & enjoy the suits in GOOD HEALTH!
Brenda : )~
Ouch! My Nineteen Pounds, continued...
Mar 01, 2012
Sorry folks, I'm on my phone,having technical difficulties!
The pain has been constant, never resolved, but I blame that on my low blood pressure. I just finally, this afternoon, had my systalic in triple digits. Sure, they could probably give
Me something stronger, but narcotics & low blood pressure (82 over 52) is not a good combination. I also wonder if my more aggressive removal of the flesh over the mons and it being anchored to my abdominal muscles has something to do with the "phantom" belly button pain. Oh, it hurts, but my belly button is gone, and they said it has to do with the anchor. Trust me, any pain is justified in my mind, my first day in recovery is leaving me in awe.
Oh, I doubt I mentioned this, my surgeon is left handed. I actually asked him before surgery if being left handed makes his stitches/sutures look upside down, his response: Not that I've ever noticed, my suturing is perfection... Two thumbs up from this patient!
My breathing was fine after recovery, but I think I may have had a minor dumping incident. I was given Jell-O, and I felt queasy. Lucky for me, my fellow weight loss surgery support gal pal pointed out to the nurse who kept upping my meds for nausea, that I hadn't eating in 25 hours, so I'm sure that was what happened, dumping.
All in all, I'm looking forward to sharing more, and TRULY THANK ALL WHO HAVE SUPPORTED ME, you folks have made me feel so fabulous, I want to buy you all a Coke, well, that was the commercial... The support I've received is overwhelming, thank you! Here's to a speedy recovery, and miles 89 through 600 I have to swim, Stay Positive!
Brenda : )-
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The pain has been constant, never resolved, but I blame that on my low blood pressure. I just finally, this afternoon, had my systalic in triple digits. Sure, they could probably give
Me something stronger, but narcotics & low blood pressure (82 over 52) is not a good combination. I also wonder if my more aggressive removal of the flesh over the mons and it being anchored to my abdominal muscles has something to do with the "phantom" belly button pain. Oh, it hurts, but my belly button is gone, and they said it has to do with the anchor. Trust me, any pain is justified in my mind, my first day in recovery is leaving me in awe.
Oh, I doubt I mentioned this, my surgeon is left handed. I actually asked him before surgery if being left handed makes his stitches/sutures look upside down, his response: Not that I've ever noticed, my suturing is perfection... Two thumbs up from this patient!
My breathing was fine after recovery, but I think I may have had a minor dumping incident. I was given Jell-O, and I felt queasy. Lucky for me, my fellow weight loss surgery support gal pal pointed out to the nurse who kept upping my meds for nausea, that I hadn't eating in 25 hours, so I'm sure that was what happened, dumping.
All in all, I'm looking forward to sharing more, and TRULY THANK ALL WHO HAVE SUPPORTED ME, you folks have made me feel so fabulous, I want to buy you all a Coke, well, that was the commercial... The support I've received is overwhelming, thank you! Here's to a speedy recovery, and miles 89 through 600 I have to swim, Stay Positive!
Brenda : )-
Ouch! I've given up Nineteen Pounds of Flesh...
Mar 01, 2012
Drum roll, please!
I was told my pannus was 18 pounds, my mons pubis another pound - no kidding, that's the number that amazed me, one whole pound! Anyhow, I hurt, but very happy with seeing my thighs when I look down! Nineteen pounds!
I did not get abdomnoplasty, that comes later, this was more focused on the "redundant" skin, and frankly, I was excited when
My friend Kari took a photo of my smaller lady parts. My release is tomorrow morning, and I've already figured out how to work my drains and even measure their output. Nitty gritty is what I promised, so hang on...
My incision goes from the outer edge of my hips, along the "hairline," or pubic area. It is glued in ace with additional sutures to keep it from splitting. I'm not to use Neosporin or other creams, as it can I solve the glue. How cool is that? I was originally told I would have 4 drains, but I only have 2. But the best part is how great my girl parts look!
My belly is swollen over what will be my waist, so I am puzzled by it's appearance. I'm sure it will look fabulous as I heal. It feels different walking, showering, and even going to the bathroom. For anyone with a fatty pad on the pubic bone, the work Dr Keith Paige did for me is beyond amazing! It's so funny, I can see my thighs, and I just love pulling up my hospital gown to make sure this is real.
Let me tell you about my "accommodations"! Not only am I in a private room, I call for "room service" for all my meals and if I wanted a snack! "Room Service, can I get your last name?" they have a real menu, and always ask me, "is that all you would like?" don't worry, I haven't gotten so spoiled as to request the cheesecake, but I will be having grilled talipia for dinner...
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I was told my pannus was 18 pounds, my mons pubis another pound - no kidding, that's the number that amazed me, one whole pound! Anyhow, I hurt, but very happy with seeing my thighs when I look down! Nineteen pounds!
I did not get abdomnoplasty, that comes later, this was more focused on the "redundant" skin, and frankly, I was excited when
My friend Kari took a photo of my smaller lady parts. My release is tomorrow morning, and I've already figured out how to work my drains and even measure their output. Nitty gritty is what I promised, so hang on...
My incision goes from the outer edge of my hips, along the "hairline," or pubic area. It is glued in ace with additional sutures to keep it from splitting. I'm not to use Neosporin or other creams, as it can I solve the glue. How cool is that? I was originally told I would have 4 drains, but I only have 2. But the best part is how great my girl parts look!
My belly is swollen over what will be my waist, so I am puzzled by it's appearance. I'm sure it will look fabulous as I heal. It feels different walking, showering, and even going to the bathroom. For anyone with a fatty pad on the pubic bone, the work Dr Keith Paige did for me is beyond amazing! It's so funny, I can see my thighs, and I just love pulling up my hospital gown to make sure this is real.
Let me tell you about my "accommodations"! Not only am I in a private room, I call for "room service" for all my meals and if I wanted a snack! "Room Service, can I get your last name?" they have a real menu, and always ask me, "is that all you would like?" don't worry, I haven't gotten so spoiled as to request the cheesecake, but I will be having grilled talipia for dinner...
Today is THE Day... Bye, Bye Pannus!
Feb 29, 2012
I added this... For those of you wondering why someone would be getting a panniculectomy when they still weigh 302 pounds, I would like to have you read my blog from Nov - Dec 2011. I started this journey at over 474 pounds, I am starting my second year after Roux-en-Y surgery. I have lost 170 pounds in this last year.
First of all, to all those who have left me comments, I promise to write you all back, personally! Probably should have just left my bed last night & jumped on my laptop, sigh. Since 1:30 in the morning, I have been awake. I actually did respond to some folks from my phone - not easy in the dark, and trying to be quiet. My ride arrives in one hour, or less. Maybe she isn't as giddy as me, but I feel like I could swim 4 miles and still drag my SCUBA gear over a rocky outcropping. Yesterday, I was asked if my blood pressure was normally this high, I laughed, "Sorry, I am a little manic, I just had four days to get ready for the surgery I expected in a month from now..."
I have taken photos and will be loading them up some point after Friday. My surgeon says as long as there aren't any complications, I am going home Friday. I actually told him that I wanted to have a "weight pool," don't know what the prize will be, but I am taking guesses as to how much flesh he is going to remove. Come to think of it, I am glad he was puzzling over it and not giving me a hard number - how could cheat... Anyhow, my guess is 23 pounds. So, feel free to leave your guess in the comments - and let's have fun with this.
Okay, back to the nitty gritty of the process to remove my pannus and correction of my mons pubis. If you aren't aware of the terms, the mons pubis is that fleshy pad over your vagina -- some of us have it worse than others, so when I load the photos, be prepared. My friend and major supporter, Kari came with me to my pre-op exam. Funny, the surgeon did not seem to remember how pronounced my mons pubis was (during the exam, the surgeon usually has you pull the panniculus - pannus - up, to view underneath). So I addressed it right then and there, YANK! My friend (poor Kari, bless her heart) was staring straight at something she had never seen before. Yup, I can be totally naked without showing my va ja ja! I got up on the table and made the doctor really get in there and realize how fleshy the mons pubis is, so he can be more aggressive than he initially stated in the beginning.
I actually found surgical papers on the procedure I want, so he explained to him why I prefer the more aggressive repair, and he seems to agree with me. If I am giving up my belly button - he asked again if I was all right with that, I said, "As long as you promise to take as much flesh as possible, I'll be happy to just get a tattoo!" Friends who have received their panniculectomy usually have this odd notch where their hoo-ha has just been tugged up, almost making their hair line seem too close to their navels. So, for those less faint of heart, I will be providing photos. I told Kari it reminds me of the snout of a walrus, she just laughed, a little uncomfortably, but I get it.
Kari & I actually discussed the mons pubis on our drive home, yesterday. "I now understand what you've been saying... I'll never complain about mine again..." It's just what happens when you get really, really fat.
My ride should be here in a half hour - so please, happy thoughts! Stay Positive! Check my album for swimsuits!!! Please leave a comment if there is a suit you can use, I promise to try to get back to you this weekend!
Brenda : )~
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First of all, to all those who have left me comments, I promise to write you all back, personally! Probably should have just left my bed last night & jumped on my laptop, sigh. Since 1:30 in the morning, I have been awake. I actually did respond to some folks from my phone - not easy in the dark, and trying to be quiet. My ride arrives in one hour, or less. Maybe she isn't as giddy as me, but I feel like I could swim 4 miles and still drag my SCUBA gear over a rocky outcropping. Yesterday, I was asked if my blood pressure was normally this high, I laughed, "Sorry, I am a little manic, I just had four days to get ready for the surgery I expected in a month from now..."
I have taken photos and will be loading them up some point after Friday. My surgeon says as long as there aren't any complications, I am going home Friday. I actually told him that I wanted to have a "weight pool," don't know what the prize will be, but I am taking guesses as to how much flesh he is going to remove. Come to think of it, I am glad he was puzzling over it and not giving me a hard number - how could cheat... Anyhow, my guess is 23 pounds. So, feel free to leave your guess in the comments - and let's have fun with this.
Okay, back to the nitty gritty of the process to remove my pannus and correction of my mons pubis. If you aren't aware of the terms, the mons pubis is that fleshy pad over your vagina -- some of us have it worse than others, so when I load the photos, be prepared. My friend and major supporter, Kari came with me to my pre-op exam. Funny, the surgeon did not seem to remember how pronounced my mons pubis was (during the exam, the surgeon usually has you pull the panniculus - pannus - up, to view underneath). So I addressed it right then and there, YANK! My friend (poor Kari, bless her heart) was staring straight at something she had never seen before. Yup, I can be totally naked without showing my va ja ja! I got up on the table and made the doctor really get in there and realize how fleshy the mons pubis is, so he can be more aggressive than he initially stated in the beginning.
I actually found surgical papers on the procedure I want, so he explained to him why I prefer the more aggressive repair, and he seems to agree with me. If I am giving up my belly button - he asked again if I was all right with that, I said, "As long as you promise to take as much flesh as possible, I'll be happy to just get a tattoo!" Friends who have received their panniculectomy usually have this odd notch where their hoo-ha has just been tugged up, almost making their hair line seem too close to their navels. So, for those less faint of heart, I will be providing photos. I told Kari it reminds me of the snout of a walrus, she just laughed, a little uncomfortably, but I get it.
Kari & I actually discussed the mons pubis on our drive home, yesterday. "I now understand what you've been saying... I'll never complain about mine again..." It's just what happens when you get really, really fat.
My ride should be here in a half hour - so please, happy thoughts! Stay Positive! Check my album for swimsuits!!! Please leave a comment if there is a suit you can use, I promise to try to get back to you this weekend!
Brenda : )~
One Day and Counting, Panniculectomy...
Feb 28, 2012
It's really odd, but I think I just realized a connection with "nesting" for pregnant women, and those who are about to "give birth" to their pannus...
Having thought I still had a month to go, I was pretty much more like the ant than the grasshopper, getting ready for Winter. Then I get a phone call last Friday that I was being offered a sooner date - TOMORROW. Considering that only left me with two weekend days and two weekdays before surgery, I have been dashing about my home to get it ready -- but I promise NOT to bring home my swaddled pannus.
My list was huge, but I have been slowly ticking off all my errands & chores. I have only been sleeping 5 - 6 hours a night, which is more like the OLD me, before discovering the wonders of 8 full hours of sleep. Getting up earlier leaves me with more time to do laundry, shop, clean, and of course take care of business. I am on my second load of laundry, scrubbed my shower TWICE, made phone calls, and I am still trying to figure out what else I can get done before my pre-op appointment at 11:30am... It totally hit me, "I am worse than a woman preparing for labor!" By the way, I do talk to myself often, so if you are just reading my blog for the first time, I swear it is a healthy thing to do.
I've jumped on Facebook to check my weight loss support group page - I still need to either cancel or secure a group leader for the meeting. My thoughts are racing, I have another meeting on March 15, so I am wondering, "Will I be healed enough to attend?" Then I thought, I need to keep checking on my "peeps" here on Obesity Help, so here I am. Tap Tap Tap, I have one finger nail that is chipped, and it bugs me. I actually clipped my toenails this morning, as I better do it while I still can bend to reach them!
Yesterday, I even called my surgeon's office, "No one scheduled my anesthesia appointment, what meds/supplements/vitamins am I supposed to suspend before surgery?!" For the record, I was told my medications were fine, but stop all vitamins & supplements, especially vitamins E & K. Good thing I knew the drill. My appointment is at 11:30am today, but I am already doing a liquid diet -- I am probably going overboard, but I like being prepared. I still have to take my photos for before, and I am going to have fresh sheets and pads in place so that my bed is post-op ready!
Okay, here is the emotional stuff: I have made notes to my loved ones, even wondered if I need to tell them where the money is hidden, you know, just in case. I am probably more giddy than worried, but I like to be in control, even when I cannot be. Rest assured, I looked up my surgeon, and even read the paper he published in 2008 about his study of 92 patients receiving panniculectomies, and following those patients over four years. So, I know he knows what he is doing. Part of me wonders what it will be like no longer having something I have known my entire adult life - and then some. I had been planning this surgery since 1996, no kidding. Long time coming, and it is finally here. Part of me just wants to wake up tomorrow, the other part is tapping me on the shoulder, "I need more time to finish getting ready".
I have sent out swimsuits, and posted another suit that needs a new home. I have been pretty good writing friends and thanking supporters. What is left is to get the surgery and recover. What size will I end up being after surgery? How much will the flesh removed weigh? Holy smokes, I will be well into the 200's for the first time in 15 years! Is it that obvious that I am a little excited? I wonder if they can use the skin for burn victims? I better ask the surgeon, so I can have closure!
Well folks, just in case this is my last post for a few days, I am looking forward to sharing all the gory details! Wishing my FUP a happier life without me! Stay positive!
Brenda : )~
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Having thought I still had a month to go, I was pretty much more like the ant than the grasshopper, getting ready for Winter. Then I get a phone call last Friday that I was being offered a sooner date - TOMORROW. Considering that only left me with two weekend days and two weekdays before surgery, I have been dashing about my home to get it ready -- but I promise NOT to bring home my swaddled pannus.
My list was huge, but I have been slowly ticking off all my errands & chores. I have only been sleeping 5 - 6 hours a night, which is more like the OLD me, before discovering the wonders of 8 full hours of sleep. Getting up earlier leaves me with more time to do laundry, shop, clean, and of course take care of business. I am on my second load of laundry, scrubbed my shower TWICE, made phone calls, and I am still trying to figure out what else I can get done before my pre-op appointment at 11:30am... It totally hit me, "I am worse than a woman preparing for labor!" By the way, I do talk to myself often, so if you are just reading my blog for the first time, I swear it is a healthy thing to do.
I've jumped on Facebook to check my weight loss support group page - I still need to either cancel or secure a group leader for the meeting. My thoughts are racing, I have another meeting on March 15, so I am wondering, "Will I be healed enough to attend?" Then I thought, I need to keep checking on my "peeps" here on Obesity Help, so here I am. Tap Tap Tap, I have one finger nail that is chipped, and it bugs me. I actually clipped my toenails this morning, as I better do it while I still can bend to reach them!
Yesterday, I even called my surgeon's office, "No one scheduled my anesthesia appointment, what meds/supplements/vitamins am I supposed to suspend before surgery?!" For the record, I was told my medications were fine, but stop all vitamins & supplements, especially vitamins E & K. Good thing I knew the drill. My appointment is at 11:30am today, but I am already doing a liquid diet -- I am probably going overboard, but I like being prepared. I still have to take my photos for before, and I am going to have fresh sheets and pads in place so that my bed is post-op ready!
Okay, here is the emotional stuff: I have made notes to my loved ones, even wondered if I need to tell them where the money is hidden, you know, just in case. I am probably more giddy than worried, but I like to be in control, even when I cannot be. Rest assured, I looked up my surgeon, and even read the paper he published in 2008 about his study of 92 patients receiving panniculectomies, and following those patients over four years. So, I know he knows what he is doing. Part of me wonders what it will be like no longer having something I have known my entire adult life - and then some. I had been planning this surgery since 1996, no kidding. Long time coming, and it is finally here. Part of me just wants to wake up tomorrow, the other part is tapping me on the shoulder, "I need more time to finish getting ready".
I have sent out swimsuits, and posted another suit that needs a new home. I have been pretty good writing friends and thanking supporters. What is left is to get the surgery and recover. What size will I end up being after surgery? How much will the flesh removed weigh? Holy smokes, I will be well into the 200's for the first time in 15 years! Is it that obvious that I am a little excited? I wonder if they can use the skin for burn victims? I better ask the surgeon, so I can have closure!
Well folks, just in case this is my last post for a few days, I am looking forward to sharing all the gory details! Wishing my FUP a happier life without me! Stay positive!
Brenda : )~
Leap Day and My New Body...
Feb 24, 2012
Well folks, I beat the drum of positivity for a very good reason... If you have a positive outlook, good things happen. It also works when you get handed less positive news -- you find something good within the news.
I have spent 15 months working hard since I had my weight loss surgery, even a lot longer if you consider before surgery effort, to finally see a glimmer of light ahead of me. What is the glimmer, you may ask? I had been given the surgical date of March 29, 2012 to receive my panniculectomy, only to receive a call today that I was moved up exactly one month. If you do not know what a panniculectomy is, it is the removal of fatty tissue that hangs over your lap - the "fat apron" or pannus (panniculous is how many doctors refer to it). It isn't a tummy tuck, as it only involves the flesh that hangs, but I have a pannus that hangs 42 centimeters, so I am happier than I have been in years.
Dealing with setbacks is just how life is. I was feeling a little bummed over waiting from Dec 18 of 2011 until March of 2012, but I always reminded myself, "You've lived with your FUP (it's nickname) your entire adult life, what is an extra month or two?!" So, I will say that by keeping a positive attitude, reminding the surgeon's scheduler that I am ready when they are, I actually got the call.
The date I am getting surgery is very cool for me, as I love associating things. I have a cool day to say, I will be FUP FREE! Leap Day happens once every four years, how appropriate that I be scheduled for that day. I have had this ugly, fleshy part of my body all my adult life. Strangely, it is the only part of me I have never liked, and now it will be gone. Move over Paunxatauney Phil, as Fup Free Day is coming! If you haven't guessed it already, I will absolutely celebrate Leap Day from this year forward - it would be a shame not to.
As I love to say, if something is worth having, it is worth working for! I am down 170 pounds, and I am now finally getting something I have been working towards since 1996 -- that is the first time I saw a Reconstructive Surgeon about getting a panniculectomy. I will post before & after photos in a special album, so some will be clothed, some will be naked. Please check back for the transformation!
Stay Positive!
Brenda : )~
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I have spent 15 months working hard since I had my weight loss surgery, even a lot longer if you consider before surgery effort, to finally see a glimmer of light ahead of me. What is the glimmer, you may ask? I had been given the surgical date of March 29, 2012 to receive my panniculectomy, only to receive a call today that I was moved up exactly one month. If you do not know what a panniculectomy is, it is the removal of fatty tissue that hangs over your lap - the "fat apron" or pannus (panniculous is how many doctors refer to it). It isn't a tummy tuck, as it only involves the flesh that hangs, but I have a pannus that hangs 42 centimeters, so I am happier than I have been in years.
Dealing with setbacks is just how life is. I was feeling a little bummed over waiting from Dec 18 of 2011 until March of 2012, but I always reminded myself, "You've lived with your FUP (it's nickname) your entire adult life, what is an extra month or two?!" So, I will say that by keeping a positive attitude, reminding the surgeon's scheduler that I am ready when they are, I actually got the call.
The date I am getting surgery is very cool for me, as I love associating things. I have a cool day to say, I will be FUP FREE! Leap Day happens once every four years, how appropriate that I be scheduled for that day. I have had this ugly, fleshy part of my body all my adult life. Strangely, it is the only part of me I have never liked, and now it will be gone. Move over Paunxatauney Phil, as Fup Free Day is coming! If you haven't guessed it already, I will absolutely celebrate Leap Day from this year forward - it would be a shame not to.
As I love to say, if something is worth having, it is worth working for! I am down 170 pounds, and I am now finally getting something I have been working towards since 1996 -- that is the first time I saw a Reconstructive Surgeon about getting a panniculectomy. I will post before & after photos in a special album, so some will be clothed, some will be naked. Please check back for the transformation!
Stay Positive!
Brenda : )~
Why Do I Love Support Groups?
Feb 23, 2012
I realize we all have a way of learning and working through our weight loss journey, but one great foundation for me is being active with Weight Loss Support Groups. Whether you choose a group from your Bariatric Center, a non profit group like TOPS (Take Off Pounds Sensibly) or OA (Overeaters Anonymous), or even an Obesity Help affiliated group like Puget Sound WLS Support (shameless plug for my group), attending will give you camaraderie and the support you need. If you learn some new information, well that is a definite plus!
My attending support group meetings is serious, as I go to four meetings a month, within three different groups. I like to be able to share the ups and downs of this journey with others. One of my favorite mottos (I guess I have a few Brenda-isms) is that I get support by giving support. Last night I got to swap information, bounce some concerns I have off of people who understand this journey, and might have a perspective I overlooked - and vice versa. The main topic and speaker last night was a hypnotherapist. Lisa Crunick is a local therapist to the Seattle Area, but she does have a website: http://www.lisacrunick.com/ What I was happy to be able to do was meet with and talk with a potential therapist, in order to decide if this is a route I might want to take.
Who hasn't wondered about the class downtown at the community center that offers weight loss through hypnosis? Obviously, I wasn't completely sold on the idea, or I would have already tried it. I liked the fact that Lisa explained that it isn't just for weight loss, she works with her patients to actually dig out what is causing a certain behavior. She uses EFT, or Emotional Freedom Technique (http://www.workingchronicles.com/2011/07/12/912/). If I understood her correctly, she likes to get the conscious and subconscious mind working together to bring about change. Okay, sounds simple, but I have a cluttered mind.
I was happy to actually meet this therapist, ask her some questions, pose my issues (both my mother and paternal grandmother tried to teach me self hypnosis and meditation when I was very young - it didn't work), just to see what she thought about working with me before I plunked down my hard earned cash. In just a few minutes of chatting, she was able to identify how I think, which may not be too hard, as I usually say what I am thinking. But what struck me is that she took time to ask me questions, and a little more about who I am outside of a weight loss surgery support group. She even gave the whole group an introduction to EFT through pressure points on our body. I admitted after that I was still having issues with my mind filling with unnecessary information, but I was ready to see what she could do with me in a one on one hour and a half session -- so I will be booking at least one appointment with her. My promise is to share my outcome, as my main issue I want to deal with is Head Hunger.
Another support group meeting was with a fabulous nutritionist who actually offers classes in cooking - especially for certain medical reasons - diabetic, gastric bypass patients, gluten free, and so on. I may never have found out about Robin Beeson (robinbeeson.com) this wholistic nutrition guru had I not attended that particular support group meeting. I know how to cook, and for the most part in a very healthful manner, but to be able to pass on her information to folks who may not have these skills, it was worth the two hours I spent learning.
Over a week ago I got to meet Rose Cowan, who is a pretty fabulous woman. She decided that she wasn't able to lose weight for herself, but she was willing to do whatever it took to keep the mother of her children alive. Not only did we swap information about plastic and reconstructive surgery (she says she works for her surgeon to support her habit - she looks GREAT), we also got to hear how her life has been impacted by losing and keeping off her weight. I always like to see how a person has done in the long term, so she is a great example of being able to set your path and follow it -- she did hers without surgery.
Not only do you get to meet great guests, but you also learn about nutrition, exercise, emotional coping, and share with others the "wow" moments. When we went around the room last night, we were asked to just introduce ourselves, and say something about us. Most liked to include weight lost so far, I didn't, I shared my resting heart rate - to which I am so proud of! For those of you who haven't followed my journey, I did have another doctors office validate that my resting heart rate is now 52. Not all our pride is measured on the scale, so don't ever dismiss those NSV (Non Scale Victories)! In my particular support group, we offer group activities. This month my group went bowling, and had a great time! Exercise, camaraderie, that is what makes you willing to keep heading in the right direction on your journey.
Another benefit to support groups is clothing exchanges! I want to give a big shout out to Tina Brown who donated swimsuits to my "pay it forward" with swimwear -- go check my photo albums -- all I ask is that you pay shipping. When you are the largest person in a support group, you do get a lot more clothing options, so I haven't had to purchase many new things as I graduate into smaller clothing -- thanks to all the women who have shared with me!!! I also love being able to give back, through sharing of clothing, samples of meal replacement protein drinks, or just ideas. Isn't two hours of your life worth giving back to yourself? I love me so much, I go four times a month!
If you ask how can I find a support group in my area? I'm happy to tell you that you are on a great resource right here, ObesityHelp.com. Go into the forums tab, and look for "go local", as there is a forum that anyone can post on -- asking or offering support groups or just to connect with local people. If you aren't associated with a medical center, many of the local hospitals are HAPPY to have you attend, free of charge. I know I have brought seven different people to the Virginia Mason Center, as they did not have local surgeons. Check on Craigslist, local newspapers still have announcement sections, or check specific groups (like TOPS or OA) online - as they will be happy to send you to a local group.
Being online is a great resource, but I have to tell you there is something special seeing the same folks month after month, and sharing the journey. Last night one of the members in the group shared some personal issues about his journey. He could not deal with the face looking back at him in the mirror. I have seen him through his over 100 pound journey, and he even shaved off a beard he has had for decades. His sharing with the group puts a face to the issue, and may help others with their acceptance of this stranger looking back at them from the mirror. When reading posts online, you do not get to hear the emotion or even see it. But being there, face to face, it helps you relate.
Through my very own group, I was able to refer a fellow member to my reconstructive surgeon. The member was worried about hearing "No," but I assured her, she was giving herself the "NO" without even trying. Well, she took my advice, and she is scheduled for a panniculectomy. She may not have done this so soon, had she not been to a support group meeting, and had a face to face with someone in similar shoes as hers. Support groups are for educating us, so be willing to share your journey, as you may be helping someone else through your support.
As always, Stay Positive!!!
Brenda : )~
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My attending support group meetings is serious, as I go to four meetings a month, within three different groups. I like to be able to share the ups and downs of this journey with others. One of my favorite mottos (I guess I have a few Brenda-isms) is that I get support by giving support. Last night I got to swap information, bounce some concerns I have off of people who understand this journey, and might have a perspective I overlooked - and vice versa. The main topic and speaker last night was a hypnotherapist. Lisa Crunick is a local therapist to the Seattle Area, but she does have a website: http://www.lisacrunick.com/ What I was happy to be able to do was meet with and talk with a potential therapist, in order to decide if this is a route I might want to take.
Who hasn't wondered about the class downtown at the community center that offers weight loss through hypnosis? Obviously, I wasn't completely sold on the idea, or I would have already tried it. I liked the fact that Lisa explained that it isn't just for weight loss, she works with her patients to actually dig out what is causing a certain behavior. She uses EFT, or Emotional Freedom Technique (http://www.workingchronicles.com/2011/07/12/912/). If I understood her correctly, she likes to get the conscious and subconscious mind working together to bring about change. Okay, sounds simple, but I have a cluttered mind.
I was happy to actually meet this therapist, ask her some questions, pose my issues (both my mother and paternal grandmother tried to teach me self hypnosis and meditation when I was very young - it didn't work), just to see what she thought about working with me before I plunked down my hard earned cash. In just a few minutes of chatting, she was able to identify how I think, which may not be too hard, as I usually say what I am thinking. But what struck me is that she took time to ask me questions, and a little more about who I am outside of a weight loss surgery support group. She even gave the whole group an introduction to EFT through pressure points on our body. I admitted after that I was still having issues with my mind filling with unnecessary information, but I was ready to see what she could do with me in a one on one hour and a half session -- so I will be booking at least one appointment with her. My promise is to share my outcome, as my main issue I want to deal with is Head Hunger.
Another support group meeting was with a fabulous nutritionist who actually offers classes in cooking - especially for certain medical reasons - diabetic, gastric bypass patients, gluten free, and so on. I may never have found out about Robin Beeson (robinbeeson.com) this wholistic nutrition guru had I not attended that particular support group meeting. I know how to cook, and for the most part in a very healthful manner, but to be able to pass on her information to folks who may not have these skills, it was worth the two hours I spent learning.
Over a week ago I got to meet Rose Cowan, who is a pretty fabulous woman. She decided that she wasn't able to lose weight for herself, but she was willing to do whatever it took to keep the mother of her children alive. Not only did we swap information about plastic and reconstructive surgery (she says she works for her surgeon to support her habit - she looks GREAT), we also got to hear how her life has been impacted by losing and keeping off her weight. I always like to see how a person has done in the long term, so she is a great example of being able to set your path and follow it -- she did hers without surgery.
Not only do you get to meet great guests, but you also learn about nutrition, exercise, emotional coping, and share with others the "wow" moments. When we went around the room last night, we were asked to just introduce ourselves, and say something about us. Most liked to include weight lost so far, I didn't, I shared my resting heart rate - to which I am so proud of! For those of you who haven't followed my journey, I did have another doctors office validate that my resting heart rate is now 52. Not all our pride is measured on the scale, so don't ever dismiss those NSV (Non Scale Victories)! In my particular support group, we offer group activities. This month my group went bowling, and had a great time! Exercise, camaraderie, that is what makes you willing to keep heading in the right direction on your journey.
Another benefit to support groups is clothing exchanges! I want to give a big shout out to Tina Brown who donated swimsuits to my "pay it forward" with swimwear -- go check my photo albums -- all I ask is that you pay shipping. When you are the largest person in a support group, you do get a lot more clothing options, so I haven't had to purchase many new things as I graduate into smaller clothing -- thanks to all the women who have shared with me!!! I also love being able to give back, through sharing of clothing, samples of meal replacement protein drinks, or just ideas. Isn't two hours of your life worth giving back to yourself? I love me so much, I go four times a month!
If you ask how can I find a support group in my area? I'm happy to tell you that you are on a great resource right here, ObesityHelp.com. Go into the forums tab, and look for "go local", as there is a forum that anyone can post on -- asking or offering support groups or just to connect with local people. If you aren't associated with a medical center, many of the local hospitals are HAPPY to have you attend, free of charge. I know I have brought seven different people to the Virginia Mason Center, as they did not have local surgeons. Check on Craigslist, local newspapers still have announcement sections, or check specific groups (like TOPS or OA) online - as they will be happy to send you to a local group.
Being online is a great resource, but I have to tell you there is something special seeing the same folks month after month, and sharing the journey. Last night one of the members in the group shared some personal issues about his journey. He could not deal with the face looking back at him in the mirror. I have seen him through his over 100 pound journey, and he even shaved off a beard he has had for decades. His sharing with the group puts a face to the issue, and may help others with their acceptance of this stranger looking back at them from the mirror. When reading posts online, you do not get to hear the emotion or even see it. But being there, face to face, it helps you relate.
Through my very own group, I was able to refer a fellow member to my reconstructive surgeon. The member was worried about hearing "No," but I assured her, she was giving herself the "NO" without even trying. Well, she took my advice, and she is scheduled for a panniculectomy. She may not have done this so soon, had she not been to a support group meeting, and had a face to face with someone in similar shoes as hers. Support groups are for educating us, so be willing to share your journey, as you may be helping someone else through your support.
As always, Stay Positive!!!
Brenda : )~
What Now?
Feb 21, 2012
I have friends who complain that they aren't losing weight, yet when I ask them the qualifying questions, they come back with answers like: I am not like you... I don't have the time to exercise... I have an idea what I am eating - I don't need a food journal...
Look, losing weight and getting healthy doesn't JUST happen, it takes work. Sure, surgery will give you a great head start, but what happens when you are a year out, and you aren't losing weight like you did months ago? I can answer this question: Food journal & MEASURE your food; EXERCISE DAILY; drink water; take supplements; learn how to read food labels - and if you do not cook for yourself, learn to cook -- in a healthful manner.
Frustration tends to start rearing its head when the scale stops dropping multiple pounds, but what you need to do is BE HONEST WITH YOURSELF. After talking with the nurse practitioner at my bariatric surgeons office, I admitted I wasn't food journaling, which is probably why I am barely losing weight. Yup, even I get lazy, but I can also be honest with myself & figure out what I am doing wrong. With smart phones, it is easy to find an APP you like & will use, just take them for a test drive. Even a note pad will work. The point is if you make this a daily activity, you are more likely to continue. I have an APP on my phone that does the math for me - tells me how many calories I have left, what my protein intake is, and calculates calories burned through exercise.
For those of you who just cannot find an extra 30 minutes a day to exercise, you need to make your heart a higher priority. Yup, I said it, if you love your heart, you will exercise at least 30 minutes a day. With exercise you actually sleep better, and will walk taller when you are out in public. I park at the furthest part of every parking lot for extra exercise, and I live in rainy Seattle. I can take 20 flights of stairs at a time, because I kept pushing myself & did it daily. It is easy to find a flight of stairs, so just start going up & down - you'll be surprised how hard a workout this can be! Check Craigslist for a used exercise bike, and USE IT. I find I like to listen to music and browse my emails while I ride. I set up playlists for my bicycle rides, so I know how long I have peddled, and how long until I am done. My heart rate is now a fabulous 52 when I am at rest, and it did not come from sitting around. It has taken me years of swimming to be able to swim three miles a day.
Not everyone knows the basics of healthy cooking, which sort of surprises me. Maybe it is the Fast Food Age, too many convenience foods in a heat and eat package, but there really are simple ways to improve your diet. I have always been a picky eater, so I learned how to adapt & cook things for myself, so I could control what was in my foods. I was 19 years old before I knew I could order a Big Mac with only lettuce and cheese (although I haven't had one in years, this is how I used to order it). When you actually read the nutritional labels for Fast Food Restaurants, you will really be shocked. If you do not know how to read labels, you can learn! When I make my veggies, I use bouillon instead of butter. I rarely ever use oils or fats in my kitchen, mainly because I am a picky eater (lucky for me!). Learning how to prepare food will also shrink your monthly food bill, you can control what goes into your body. Sorry if this sounds basic, but there are members in my support group who do not cook. I will never, ever give up my pressure cooker, as it makes the leanest meats tender!
When is the last time you had your blood work taken & explained to you? I take my supplements daily, without fail. When I got a low/normal result on my Vitamin D level, I was shocked. "How could this be? My Calcium looks fine..." But knowing I was getting deficient in one area made me react and add more Vitamin D to my daily regime. Blood tells what you really are doing, it will show if you sit on your butt & have a lousy diet, or if you are on top of things. When you have a limited amount of food you can eat in a day -- either through restriction, or just from counting calories, you have to make up the deficiency somewhere. One of the members in my support group told me she now has Osteoporosis. This made me aware of staying on top of my supplements and asking for a bone density test. Sure, the member had decent calcium levels in her blood, but she now has to worry about why her body had to leech the calcium out of her bones, when she could have just taken the right kind of calcium to prevent this whole mess.
Here is another piece of advice, staying positive doesn't just happen, it has to be worked at. There are days I do not feel like doing the things I know I need to do, but in my goal to stay positive, I just do it. Having a positive outlook makes this journey so much easier. I have one friend who has a difficult time seeing the positive in life, so I bug her, constantly. Get outside of your usual, find something you can be passionate about, and do it. If you think the weight comes off easily, I am pretty sure you haven't been working at it very long. This is for life - as in the rest of your life. If you face the future with a positive outlook, you will be able to continue succeed, instead of stalling out. Drink your water, take your supplements, and actually chart your food and calories, and you will succeed.
For those of you looking for a swimsuit - please check my photo album "Free Swimwear" - I have already swam 81 miles this year, with another 519 to go! If you have a swimsuit you no longer fit in, please consider "paying it forward" to other OH Members - private message me if you want to help.
Brenda : )~
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Look, losing weight and getting healthy doesn't JUST happen, it takes work. Sure, surgery will give you a great head start, but what happens when you are a year out, and you aren't losing weight like you did months ago? I can answer this question: Food journal & MEASURE your food; EXERCISE DAILY; drink water; take supplements; learn how to read food labels - and if you do not cook for yourself, learn to cook -- in a healthful manner.
Frustration tends to start rearing its head when the scale stops dropping multiple pounds, but what you need to do is BE HONEST WITH YOURSELF. After talking with the nurse practitioner at my bariatric surgeons office, I admitted I wasn't food journaling, which is probably why I am barely losing weight. Yup, even I get lazy, but I can also be honest with myself & figure out what I am doing wrong. With smart phones, it is easy to find an APP you like & will use, just take them for a test drive. Even a note pad will work. The point is if you make this a daily activity, you are more likely to continue. I have an APP on my phone that does the math for me - tells me how many calories I have left, what my protein intake is, and calculates calories burned through exercise.
For those of you who just cannot find an extra 30 minutes a day to exercise, you need to make your heart a higher priority. Yup, I said it, if you love your heart, you will exercise at least 30 minutes a day. With exercise you actually sleep better, and will walk taller when you are out in public. I park at the furthest part of every parking lot for extra exercise, and I live in rainy Seattle. I can take 20 flights of stairs at a time, because I kept pushing myself & did it daily. It is easy to find a flight of stairs, so just start going up & down - you'll be surprised how hard a workout this can be! Check Craigslist for a used exercise bike, and USE IT. I find I like to listen to music and browse my emails while I ride. I set up playlists for my bicycle rides, so I know how long I have peddled, and how long until I am done. My heart rate is now a fabulous 52 when I am at rest, and it did not come from sitting around. It has taken me years of swimming to be able to swim three miles a day.
Not everyone knows the basics of healthy cooking, which sort of surprises me. Maybe it is the Fast Food Age, too many convenience foods in a heat and eat package, but there really are simple ways to improve your diet. I have always been a picky eater, so I learned how to adapt & cook things for myself, so I could control what was in my foods. I was 19 years old before I knew I could order a Big Mac with only lettuce and cheese (although I haven't had one in years, this is how I used to order it). When you actually read the nutritional labels for Fast Food Restaurants, you will really be shocked. If you do not know how to read labels, you can learn! When I make my veggies, I use bouillon instead of butter. I rarely ever use oils or fats in my kitchen, mainly because I am a picky eater (lucky for me!). Learning how to prepare food will also shrink your monthly food bill, you can control what goes into your body. Sorry if this sounds basic, but there are members in my support group who do not cook. I will never, ever give up my pressure cooker, as it makes the leanest meats tender!
When is the last time you had your blood work taken & explained to you? I take my supplements daily, without fail. When I got a low/normal result on my Vitamin D level, I was shocked. "How could this be? My Calcium looks fine..." But knowing I was getting deficient in one area made me react and add more Vitamin D to my daily regime. Blood tells what you really are doing, it will show if you sit on your butt & have a lousy diet, or if you are on top of things. When you have a limited amount of food you can eat in a day -- either through restriction, or just from counting calories, you have to make up the deficiency somewhere. One of the members in my support group told me she now has Osteoporosis. This made me aware of staying on top of my supplements and asking for a bone density test. Sure, the member had decent calcium levels in her blood, but she now has to worry about why her body had to leech the calcium out of her bones, when she could have just taken the right kind of calcium to prevent this whole mess.
Here is another piece of advice, staying positive doesn't just happen, it has to be worked at. There are days I do not feel like doing the things I know I need to do, but in my goal to stay positive, I just do it. Having a positive outlook makes this journey so much easier. I have one friend who has a difficult time seeing the positive in life, so I bug her, constantly. Get outside of your usual, find something you can be passionate about, and do it. If you think the weight comes off easily, I am pretty sure you haven't been working at it very long. This is for life - as in the rest of your life. If you face the future with a positive outlook, you will be able to continue succeed, instead of stalling out. Drink your water, take your supplements, and actually chart your food and calories, and you will succeed.
For those of you looking for a swimsuit - please check my photo album "Free Swimwear" - I have already swam 81 miles this year, with another 519 to go! If you have a swimsuit you no longer fit in, please consider "paying it forward" to other OH Members - private message me if you want to help.
Brenda : )~
About Me
38.8
BMI
Surgery
11/16/2010
Surgery Date
Mar 16, 2010
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