Great job on exercising 5-7 times a week! As someone who exercises along the same schedule, I know that can get exhausting. 

My initial thoughts are in line with your bodybuilding friend who is telling you that you need to eat more.  If you are exercising as much as you say you are, you need to fuel the body to be able to keep up with your activity level.

If you are bodybuilding, you need to eat much more protein (not protein bars but legit protein like eggs, meats, fish, etc) to fuel the protein synthesis and build the muscle.  This is good because it allows you to eat more calories and eat more frequently (and hopefully reduce your need to graze).  You will gain weight, but it will be muscle weight.  The more muscle you have, the more calories you burn at rest.

I know that eating more calories sounds counter-intuitive to weight loss, but if you choose the right foods, then you can maximize muscle growth without gaining fat. Bodybuilding.com is a great resource for articles regarding nutrition.  There is one called "24 laws of eating for muscle" (http://www.bodybuilding.com/content/24-laws-of-eating-for-mu scle.html) that has some interesting information to get you started.

I recommend you also sit down with a personal trainer (or your bodybuilding buddies) and discuss your workout goals.  Being physically active is great, and I applaud you for going to the gym so religiously.  But discussing your goals with a fitness professional (or your knowledgeable gym bros) can help you make tiny tweaks to your exercise program that could make all the difference.  

One last word of advice is that you talk to a registered dietitian (R.D.).  Usually, the bariatric center either has a associated R.D. or can refer you out to one.  Write out your exercise program and discuss it with your R.D.  They can help you figure out what type of caloric intake you need to have to continue weight loss while still fueling the body for the activities you want to participate in.

I wish you the best of luck in your journey.

You are eating way too light, for all of the working out you are doing. You need to eat some real food not all of those protein bars and shakes. For breakfast instead of protein bar have some eggs with veggies or some chicken or steak or something to sustain you. If you eat more protein rich food, then you probably won't have the urge to graze.

I have gained slightly, I think it is because I introduced more carbs as well....I am having a hard time cutting the grazing.....

 Thank you for the nice response appreciate it! 

are you gaining from it?