We have one guy who never told his wife

It's crazy how i had more support from people at work then my own family. I hinted around to family members about "maybe" having surgery( i had already gotten my surgery date). NEGATIVITY right off the bat. My parents are the only ones who know in my family about my surgery. Mom was hesitant at first but got on board and my dad said he has known for awhile that i was probably going to go this route because he knows how much i have struggled with my weight. He is a man of little words so it surprised the heck out of me that he became my biggest supporter.

I just had my surgery on the 7th and most of my family thinks my mom and i went on vacation. I haven't decided if i am ever going to tell anyone in my immediate family yet.

This is EXACTLY why I told no one in my family ( or friends) about my decision to have WLS .

if I Could have it would have been nice to have support... but guess what ... if you're even two hundred lbs and your family is not unconditionally behind your getting help .... they're messed up .... not you ... THEM.

yep it's hard doing it yourself but a LOT harder having to argue with a bunch of ignorant and uncaring idiots. (((()))) hugs

I only told my supervisor at work, a few family members, who I knew would be supportive, and that was it. I told the rest after the surgery because I knew they would keep their mouth shut at that point.
My supervisor ran interference at work for me as she had the surgery some years before, and would not let anyone say anything negative. Don't mention the surgery again to your family, let them know afterwards!

1. It's not the easy way out and 2. So what if it's easy? Why would someone who cares about you prefer you do things the hard way?

Seriously though, it's no one's business but your own. If you and your medical team are aligned that is all that should drive your decisions. No one will will have to do the work, no one else (who hasn't been through it) will really understand, so if you're ready and willing to do it the work, have the program and the medical team, then it's really up to you.