As the others have said, there are pluses and minuses.  Being morbidly obese is very dangerous.  I myself developed an awful complication from my gastric bypass, but still, I'm 70 lbs lighter than I was at the beginning, and one heck of a lot healthier.  I developed severe hypoglycemia, but it's a rare condition, and I get by just eating protein and veggies.  Admittedly, never having any starch is a bummer, especially for someone who was a carb addict, but then again - I prefer to be healthy.

I get along very well with my brother but, if he knew I were asking questions about his decision, he would accuse me of mothering and get really angry.  Has he asked you to check out the answers for him, or are you questioning his judgment?  Either way, I wish you luck.

It helps to get used to eating things from smaller serving dishes, as well.  I eat my yogurt or cottage cheese from a little pyrex cup, most meals on a salad plate instead of a dinner dish.  Try not to skip the veggies.  As others have said, I eat a lot of eggs and cheese.  I generally will pour the scrambled egg over some sautéed veggies, scramble and top with a little cheese.  Really filling, and the veggies help to make it a bit more healthy.  I like asparagus and broccolini best.

Hmm.  Did those of you who developed a problem with alcohol after surgery have addictive issues before hand?  Besides food, that is?  I still have an occasional drink post-RNY, and yes, I get tipsy pretty fast.  Because I have hypoglycemia, I don't usually drink more than one drink.  I also have maybe two drinks a month.  Not an issue for me at all.  I have a cabinet full of liquor to offer a drink to friends when they come by, but I'm not a regular drinker.  

I'm sorry you're all having difficulties, but just wanted to say that it's most likely different for everyone.

I'm not sure which type of surgery you had, but I would tend to guess that fries won't be all that appetizing to you in the future.  I had my RNY seven years ago and I think I may have tried to eat a few fries maybe two times in the intervening years.  Yes, I used to love them.  Now they just make me sick.  The taste is great until I swallow them and them and nearly instantly sorry.  I guess I forgot that this happened a few years ago and tried to eat a few a couple of months ago.  The memory came flooding back along with the nausea!

Tastes do change after surgery.  Give yourself a chance to develop some healthy habits and try to get your family to come along for the ride.

While there are some great surgeons in Mexico, by the time to pay for the travel down and the stay while you heal enough to come home, you might as well have it done here.  Do you by any chance belong to a credit union?  I opened an account with out local one way back when I started working.  Got my car loans there, etc.  Because of my credit history with them, I now have what is called a signature loan or line of credit.  It's any un-secured loan I can use for whatever.  You might want to check out a credit union.  You may be able to refinance your car or work some kind of deal with them.  Worth a shot.  They may also have a program that will make you save for the surgery.  I know what you mean - I'm also horrible at saving money!  Best of luck to you.

It turns out the reactive hypoglycemia, even without a condensed carb load, is a lot more prevalent than anyone originally thought.  I've met several people in my area who have the same condition.  I hear that it is more prevalent among males, but I know of three women locally.  Read all you can, ask your surgeon how many people he has with this complication, etc.  I really need the revision, but can't afford it.  Because of the very limited diet, I need a crazy amount of supplements.  This is not fun.

Do a bunch of research - yes, RNY can really drop your blood sugar - right into the coma and death zone.  I ended up with severe reactive hypoglycemia -- I've now been diagnosed with nesidioblastosis (insulin producing tumors of the pancreas).  I'm working toward either getting insurance that will cover a revision to a sleeve (written as medically necessary by my surgeon) or finding a way to self-pay.  Greens and protein is my diet.  Anything else, and I'm in trouble.  Given my complication, I would not recommend an RNY to anyone.

I get gas when I eat something with a bit too much carbohydrate in it.  I have hypoglycemia, so that might be the reason, but if I stick with my protein and veggies, I can keep away from it.  When I do get gas, GasX really helps.

I don't recall being asked about relationships, etc.  I think that the basic thing they're trying to establish is that you're not living in a fantasy land where you expect the surgery to fix all of your problems and that you'll lose all the weight you want with no effort.  They may wish to establish that you're in a secure environment now, but I don't think they'll haul all that stuff up.

If you really have that much difficulty, you should go back to your surgeon.  You do need to be able to eat to live.  When you say no protein, do you mean you just can't tolerate the shakes, or can you not eat yogurt (not the plastic stuff with sugar in it, but real yogurt), scrambled eggs, maybe some beans?  You should be able to eat about 1/4 cup of some sort of semi-solid food.  If you can't, you might have a stricture.  Please see your doctor.

I don't know how this would work for people with normal metabolism, but I can tell you that I eat only protein and vegetables (I can't have any refined carbs, even whole grains), and I walk between 3-5.5 miles per day.  My weight stays the same.  All I can tell you is do the best you can to eat a healthy diet.

I was going to echo what Tracy said.  I had an RNY in 2007.  I've developed severe reactive hypoglycemia and I can't eat any starchy things.  My diet is all protein and non starchy veggies, so I would think you'd be just find.  I'd double-check by asking the doc, but I'd say you're good to go.

I know you're anxious, but just follow doctor's orders and stay off the scale.  It will happen soon enough and you'll be over the moon.  For now, all the worry is doing is stealing your joy for today.  Relax a little.